Monday, September 27, 2010

Cheating and Money

There was an article in the NY Times Sunday entitled, "By Her Support Does She Earn His Infidelity?''

It was about a paper written by Cornell professor Christian L. Munsch entitled, "The Effect of Relative Income Disparity on Infidelity for Men and Women..''

It says that Stay at Home Dads or the Laid Off Dad are five times more likely to cheat than men who contribute an equal amount of money to the relationship. And that men who earn significantly more than their wives are likely to cheat.

Women who earn 75 per cent of the man's income are more likely to have a faithful husband.
Most women tend to be in that category because, fair or not, men tend to get paid more than women for the same job.

The paper says that, "Having multiple sex partners may be an attempt to compensatse for feelings of inadequacy.''

The professor said that only 3.8 per cent of men and 1.4 per cent of women admit to cheating, which is in line of the national average that 3 to 4 per cent of married spouses cheat in any given year. So the overwhelming majority of spouses don't cheat.

Anyway, I am curious if you think it is a problem if a wife makes more than the husband? And I am somewhat skeptical of the theory that money has much to do with cheating.

But I thought it was an interesting topic so I thought I'd pass it along for your thoughts.

FD

Friday, September 17, 2010

Young at Heart

I got another reminder this week that there is no age limit to enjoying sexual pleasure.

A 71-year-old friend of mind was telling me he recently met a 65-year-old woman and they were watching a football game last Sunday and he decided to see if she was up for having some
fun.

He started touching her and she'd say, "Don't do that.'' But she didn't stop him. And then he got his hand inside her blouse and she said, "Here we go.'' But again, she was willing.

And when he got her bra off and was sucking on her nipples, she said, "Let's go to the bedroom.'' He actually wanted to watch the end of the game, but he couldn't pass up this opportunities. He went down on her and three orgasms later, she said she hadn't been with a man for three years. He is now curious to see where the relationship goes from here. And his last girlfriend wasn't into sex and dumped him.

When one door opens, another sometimes opens.

Hope you enjoyed this true story.

FD

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Describing Orgasms

One woman recently wrote that when she has an orgasm, her back arches, her eyes close, her toes curl and her pussy clenches.

Anyway, that got me thinking. It would interesting to see how women would describe their orgasms.

I hope you will share your thoughts.

FD

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

When Is a Woman at Her Sexiest?

I saw this debate in the paper today and the answers were not always when a woman is young.

One 54-year-old guy wrote, "I can often look past the years to see, in many women, that lingering aura of the youthful beauty they once had. It may be in their eyes or smile, or the shape of their nose. Match that with their higher degree of wisdom and experience and it is far sexier. But I would never have been able to think that way when I was 25.''

And Diane Lynn, the author of "Sex for Grownups,'' wrote, "The bottom line is that a woman is sexiest when she feels she is at her sexiest, not when her hormones peak. Attitudes trump technique. It is being comfortable in their own skin.''

She also said that half the women over 50 said sex didn't exist and half said it was the best ever.

So I'll throw it open for comments. When do you think a woman is at her sexiest?

FD

Sunday, September 5, 2010

Getting Hit On

I read the following comment the other day in a column called "Male Call.''

A woman wrote, "Any woman knows this has always been a problem, but lately it seems worse. I'm talking about constantly getting hit on by guys. I know it's supposed to be flattering and in some circumstances it is, especially if the guy is attractive. But when I'm at the drugstore in sweats and a stocking cap, all I want to do is make my purchase and leave. I don't want to get chatted up by some guy in line. And then they act as if you're a (b-word) when you let them know you are not interested. I guess this isn''t really a question, just an observation. I don't understand why guys can't be more in tune with the situation before making a move.''

The answer was that guys figure if they are rejected by 99 women, one might be receptive so nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Since most of the people who comment on my blog are women, I thought I would ask for their insight. Are you flattered when guys you are not attracted to hit on you? Does it make you feel attractive? Or do you wish they would leave you alone?

And, hey, you guys out there can comment on hitting on women. Bonnie on bottomsmarts.blogspot.com wrote that her readership is something like 60-40 male but her comments are 70-30 female. I wonder why more men don't leave comments?

FD