Showering can be dangerous

Here's an interesting article that showering can be dangerous for older folks because they are prone to falling.

The larger point is that everyday things can be more dangerous than things people think are dangerous but aren't. Here's the link:

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/29/science/jared-diamonds-guide-to-reducing-lifes-risks.html?src=me&ref=general

FD

Coming Out

Did you see this story about a teen girl who baked a cake to tell her parents she is gay. The nice part is that they were supportive.

http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/lookout/girl-comes-parents-help-cake-225145896.html

FD

Coming Out

Did you see this story about a teen girl who baked a cake to tell her parents she is gay. The nice part is that they were supportive.

http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/lookout/girl-comes-parents-help-cake-225145896.html

FD

A Weekend to Remember

I already blogged about the start of my weekend with my good girl on my Christmas in January post. And she posted about it after I left. Here's the link:

http://pouredoutlett.blogspot.com/

She captured so well what a good time we had in our first weekend together at her place. And only our second meeting. Yes, the spankings -- although I think she has second thoughts about getting me that flogger as a stocking stuffer!!! -- and her being submissive to me and giving me what I want were so much fun. I love her being submissive to me.

But the vanilla stuff was so nice, too. We are both cuddlers and can never can seem to have enough cuddling time. It was so nice to watch TV together as we cuddled on the couch. We often watch TV together on the phone but it doesn't match watching it on her couch together.

And just having meals together was a treat. She is a very good cook and it was so nice the way, as she said, she doted on me.  And picking out meals she knew I would like.

Showering together is such a treat, too.

And checking out the beaches was so nice. As she said, I love the beach.

The only negative was having to leave after giving her that one last hug and kiss.

I hope to be back soon and as she said, she is checking out if there are any job prospects in this area.

In one her first posts on March 30, 2011 she wrote about her feelings of wanting to explore the lifestyle, "So what is this feeling? It's akin to standing at the foot of a mountain, knowing that's my learning curve. Knowing it's going to have to be climbed.''

A few days later, I wish her good luck on her journey and said that if she wished to discuss it in greater detail, she could email me.

She did and we have climbed that mountain together. I love the view from here.

FD

Chirstmas in January

I'm having a wonderful time visiting my good girl. She said she'd give me her Christmas presents when I arrived and when I walked in the door, she  still had the Christmas tree and stockings still up. How sweet was that!!!

Among other things, she gave me T-shirts reading, "I'll slap that ass 'till it's 50 Shades of Red'' and "I would cuddle you so hard.''

But the best one was the stocking stuffer -- a flogger. A good complement to my riding crop. She had already gotten two spankings before I opened the presents (don't want her to feel she is not getting enough spankings) and so I gave her No.. 3 with the flogger.

I have to admit the flogger is quite effective. She said her butt was burning and added. "What was I thinking (for getting it)?''

So I want to ask my readers how do they feel about the flogger compared to the riding crop or any other spanking implement?

 Well, I thought I'd give you an update but have to run.Still busy with cuddling,snuggling, bondage and spanking. Along with nice vanilla stuff like stopping by the beach and walking on a nature trail. And  she's even cooking for me instead of going out. She is truly my good girl.

What a weekend to remember!!!

FD  

"I'm tied up at the moment, can I return your call?''

That's what my good girl could be saying if she gets any telephone calls this weekend.

We will be meetng for the second time. The first time, about two months ago, we were both kind of anxious and nervous about meeting for the first time.

This time our anticipation is different. Here's a link to her blog as she thinks about my arrival:

http://pouredoutlett.blogspot.com/

FD

Oprah's Kink Show

I wrote a few days ago that the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN) was going to have a show Tuesday on kink.

If you didnn't see it, Lisa Ling narrated it and it was surprisingly positive even though she is vanilla. She started out with a guy paying a Mistress to be domed, which didn't do anything for me. But then they told the story of two couples in the lifestyle. In one of them, they are both dom types so they had to adjust. I was surprised they were willing to go on camera.

And they had a psychologist talking about how BDSM couples are good at communicating. I've always felt couples in the D/s or BDSM have more intense relationships because they spend more time together in play time while vanilla couples often just have quickie sex.

Anyway, here's the link to the Oprah website with Lisa Ling talking about doing the show and also there are links to segments on the show:

http://www.oprah.com/own-ouramericalisaling/blogs/Why-Kink-from-Lisa-Ling

The show also will be show again if you get the Oprah network and want to watch it. And sorry

FD

   

Looking for a millionaire?

I was looking for the Oprah Winfrey website to write about her kink show and I got a popup for a site called "Millionaire for me.''

It has a form to fill out and says "Find your millionaire now.'' It says "We verify income. Verified single VIP millionaires in your area.'' And it says it has almost 8000 members in my area. Huh? How many millionaires can there be? It says it has "verfied single millionaires and model quality women?'' What no women millionaires?

I somehow think millionaires wouldn't have any trouble getting dates, but I thought I'd share this with you before I get back to the kink show.

FD 

Finding Shades

Costco is one of my favorite stores.  Don't know if they have a store near you but they have quality stuff at reasonable prices and they pay their workers well.  My only problem is that they have two many items I can't resist buying.

Well, I was there today and on the book table they had a boxed set of the Shades trilogy and another book called "Release Me'' that I'd never heard of but seemed to have an erotic theme. It seems that erotic fiction is becoming more mainstream now that it is at Costco. So I bought both of them.

Times seem to be changing now that Costco is into erotic fiction.

FD 

Feel Good Story

Here's a story about a man who paid for a meal for a couple at a restaurant and what happened when he returned to the restaurant three years later. Not to spoil the story but the couple was there again and there was a proposal. Hope you enjoy it. Here's the link:

http://www.cafemom.com/articles/food_party/149505/man_anonymously_buys_couple_dinner?utm_medium=sem2&utm_campaign=prism&utm_source=outbrain&utm_content=0

FD

Oprah Goes Kinky

While watching the Lance Armstrong interview on Oprah's OWN network last night, they had a promo for a show on kink being shown next Tuesday at 10 p.m. EST, 9 CST. It references 50 Shades and says it is look at the BDSM world.

 I know some of you spankos aren't into BDSM but I thought you might find it interesting although  shows like this often don't get into the bond that the D/s likestyle can help create between a Dom and a sub. I think the lifestyle makes for more intense relationships than vanilla couples have. That to me is the essence of the lifestyle. But the show is an example that the success of 50 Shades seem to be bringing the lifestyle to a more mainstream audience.

Here's a link to a five-minute preview of the show:

http://www.oprah.com/own-our-america-lisa-ling/Sneak-Peek-Watch-the-First-5-Minutes-of-the-New-Season-Video

FD

 

Breasts as a weapon

Here's a story about a woman accused of killing her boyfriend by smothering him with her breasts. Sounds unbelieveable but I thought I'd share it.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/16/donna-lange-breasts-smother-kill-boyfriend-everett-washington_n_2486189.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular#slide=more250178

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The End of Courtship

Here's an interesting article from the N.Y. Times on how the idea of a guy picking up the phone and asking a woman out on a date and taking her to a restaurant and a movie is so old-fashioned in our texting, hookup culture. Here's the link:

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/13/fashion/the-end-of-courtship.html?src=me&ref=general

Will be interested in your thoughts.

FD

A Difficult Decision

Did you read about the 24-year-old beauty pageant contestant who is having her breasts removed because of a history of breast cancer in her family even though she has no apparent problems at the moment. This story doesn't include the point that the woman's father encouraged her to do it after losing his wife and her mother to the disease.

Is this is a good idea? Would you do it in her circumstances? Here's a link to a story about whether that decision is a good idea:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/barron-h-lerner/allyn-rose-mastectomy_b_2463629.html?utm_hp_ref=health-news&ir=Health%20News

Will be curious to hear your thoughts.

FD

Jodie Foster's Speech

Did you see Jodie Foster's speech at the Golden Globes Sunday night? Here's a link:

http://news.moviefone.com/2013/01/13/jodie-foster-golden-globes-speech_n_2469446.html?ncid=webmail1

It's hardly news that she's gay but she's always been a very private person and some members of the gay community had hoped she would support the community more in the past by being more public. But it was a very heartfelt speech. And hard to believe she's been acting for 47 years and a star since Taxi Driver when she was 13. And she looks more 35 than 50.

FD

Meeting a Vanilla Blogger

One of the best things about blogging is getting to know new people and in some cases actually meeting them.

Recently, for the third time, I met a blogger I got to know while reading their blogs and then starting to email. It's always interesting to meet someone you've only talked to in emails. And this time was different because she is a vanilla type who blogged about her breakup. She hasn't updated the blog in quite a while but here's the link:  

http://diaryofabreak.blogspot.com/

Anyway, as with PK and with Kitty, who has since stopped blogging, it was a fun meeting and it was as if we had already known each other as we talked about our lives. It is so interesting to put a voice to the person you've emailed with. For those of you who've also met in person people you've got to know online, I think you can understand. They've all been fun experiences.

Anyway, if any of you wind up meeting a fellow blogger, I hope it goes as well as it has for me.

And, of course, I also met my good girl recently but we knew each other quite well before we met in person.

FD

  

Happy New Year

Want to wish you and yours a Happy New Year filled with much joy and fulfillment.

And to all of those couples in this lifestyle in our little community, I hope you feel very connected to each other as you experience the fulfullment that comes with a D/s relationship. We all do things a little different but the key thing is that it works for us and we feel the wonder of loving and being loved.

My good girl and I are in a LDR but we were connected by phone as the ball dropped and we rang in the new year together and thought about all the wonderful times we plan to spend together in the coming year.

I love hearing her say, "Did I give you want you wanted?'' And she does. And I try to make her feel loved and cherished. Life doesn't get much better than that.

Again, Happy New Year.

FD