Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Wearing a steel collar in public

I was waiting at the shop to get my car repaired today when a woman walked in wearing a steel collar around her neck with a ring in the front.

I've seen pictures of these steel collars but never seen one being worn in public.

I debated whether to say anything to her and I finally said, "Do you wear that all the time?'' She said, "Yes, Sir."

I said it looks like a collar and she said, "Yes, Sir.''

Then I said something like it looks impressive and I can't remember whether she said thank you or yes sir. But she wasn't continuing the conversation so I stopped. I didn't want to make her uncomfortable but would have loved to ask her more about what it's like wearing it in public.

Do any of you wear any kind of collars in public?

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15 comments:

  1. A friend of mine wears an eternity collar. Looks nice. I don't think hers has a ring on it though.

    My wedding band is my collar.

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    1. Having your wedding ring as your collar is a nice touch.

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  2. I have a friend who wears one of those every day, never takes it off. I have worn a day collar before but not as a permanent part of my wardrobe. However, if I had a Dom in my life, I would love to wear a collar for him in public.

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    1. Maybe someday you will have a Dom in your life and will wear a collar for him in public.

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  3. I have a necklace that serves as a collar which reminds me of him and our roles. I guess what you could call a 'vanilla collar'. It is to be worn at all times, except in the shower and bedtime.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Sounds like the vanilla collar works well for you.

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  4. Wow that's hot! Like Roz, I wear a necklace. Daddy bought it for me for Christmas and it has an o-ring on a delicate chain. It is subtle, but for those who in the know it is unmistakeably an o-ring ... ava x

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    1. Since it is subtle but obvious for those in the know, do you notice people looking at it more than other necklaces you wear?.

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  5. No, nothing like that for us. I would have loved to have asked her questions but think you were quite right not to delve and make her uncomfortable.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. In retrospect, I wish I would have said I like the lifestyle and see if she would have reacted. Yes, it would have been interesting to talk to her about her lifestyle.

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  6. i proudly wear my collar from my Master at all times. Although i will admit that to most it looks like a pretty neckalce with a heart lock.

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  7. I wear a visibly locked steel rope collar during daytime, always and everywhere.It has no ring When we to go to the city i wear wrist cuff's too with ring.. When i get questions about it i answer honestly and with proud. Never had any bad reactions, sometimes a laugh, but they usually make a fool of themselves reacting that way aren't they? A lot depends on your attitude if it's accepted or not. Act normal like it's part of your routine, don't make a show if it and you'll do just fine :)

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  8. Collar is good. It is like Jewellery and people like to wear it. I think that it is inappropriate to laugh from someone who is wearing steel collar. It should be more popular and it shouldn't be treat like fetish. It should be that I wear steel collar because I like it and I want to wear it.

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  9. Is it... Okay? To wear say, a steel collar without a sub? My girlfriend isn't into that stuff so I don't wear them as a statement of my relationship, nor as a sub. I'm dominant but I have this magnetic pull to collars(I'm also male, women seem to visibly pull off collars as a solo look better in my opinion).

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    1. I too, am a male - more dominant than sub. I bought a 3/8" thick collar from Ring of Steel for my wife, but she immediately had a negative reaction to it. After getting over the initial reluctance, she has worn it whenever I've asked and has worn it out once or twice. She fears that everyone going to see it and think she's some hardcore fetish queen or something. *sigh* I have since bought her another RoS collar that is slightly thinner at 1/4". She has worn that one out more than the first when I've asked her to, but only likely because it is far easier passed off as jewelry. I've stopped asking because it's been made pretty clear that it's "just for me" and that really extracts most of the "specialness" out of it. But I loved the look so much I actually then bought another RoS collar for myself and ... I absolutely love wearing mine. She tolerates me wearing it, but again ... would prefer I didn't. I've been wearing it for about 8 months now, on and off, sometimes for as long as a week at a time. I can count on one hand how many times someone has actually noticed it and not once was the comment negative. It makes me feel a little edgy, different, and maybe even a little bit controversial. My favourite look is dressed all in black... black shoes, black pants, black button up shirt with the top button undone and my shiny stainless steel collar peeking out from underneath. I only wish that I could wear it 24/7 OR her wear hers 24/7, but I'll take what I can get. Regards...

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