I was waiting at the shop to get my car repaired today when a woman walked in wearing a steel collar around her neck with a ring in the front.
I've seen pictures of these steel collars but never seen one being worn in public.
I debated whether to say anything to her and I finally said, "Do you wear that all the time?'' She said, "Yes, Sir."
I said it looks like a collar and she said, "Yes, Sir.''
Then I said something like it looks impressive and I can't remember whether she said thank you or yes sir. But she wasn't continuing the conversation so I stopped. I didn't want to make her uncomfortable but would have loved to ask her more about what it's like wearing it in public.
Do any of you wear any kind of collars in public?
FD
Three Clips on ST
2 hours ago
A friend of mine wears an eternity collar. Looks nice. I don't think hers has a ring on it though.
ReplyDeleteMy wedding band is my collar.
Having your wedding ring as your collar is a nice touch.
DeleteFD
I have a friend who wears one of those every day, never takes it off. I have worn a day collar before but not as a permanent part of my wardrobe. However, if I had a Dom in my life, I would love to wear a collar for him in public.
ReplyDeleteMaybe someday you will have a Dom in your life and will wear a collar for him in public.
DeleteFD
I have a necklace that serves as a collar which reminds me of him and our roles. I guess what you could call a 'vanilla collar'. It is to be worn at all times, except in the shower and bedtime.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Roz
Sounds like the vanilla collar works well for you.
DeleteFD
Wow that's hot! Like Roz, I wear a necklace. Daddy bought it for me for Christmas and it has an o-ring on a delicate chain. It is subtle, but for those who in the know it is unmistakeably an o-ring ... ava x
ReplyDeleteSince it is subtle but obvious for those in the know, do you notice people looking at it more than other necklaces you wear?.
DeleteFD
No, nothing like that for us. I would have loved to have asked her questions but think you were quite right not to delve and make her uncomfortable.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Ronnie
xx
In retrospect, I wish I would have said I like the lifestyle and see if she would have reacted. Yes, it would have been interesting to talk to her about her lifestyle.
DeleteFD
In that case she would have known immediately tou knew nothing about it. But she already did before that obviously.
Deletei proudly wear my collar from my Master at all times. Although i will admit that to most it looks like a pretty neckalce with a heart lock.
ReplyDeleteI wear a visibly locked steel rope collar during daytime, always and everywhere.It has no ring When we to go to the city i wear wrist cuff's too with ring.. When i get questions about it i answer honestly and with proud. Never had any bad reactions, sometimes a laugh, but they usually make a fool of themselves reacting that way aren't they? A lot depends on your attitude if it's accepted or not. Act normal like it's part of your routine, don't make a show if it and you'll do just fine :)
ReplyDeleteCollar is good. It is like Jewellery and people like to wear it. I think that it is inappropriate to laugh from someone who is wearing steel collar. It should be more popular and it shouldn't be treat like fetish. It should be that I wear steel collar because I like it and I want to wear it.
ReplyDeleteIs it... Okay? To wear say, a steel collar without a sub? My girlfriend isn't into that stuff so I don't wear them as a statement of my relationship, nor as a sub. I'm dominant but I have this magnetic pull to collars(I'm also male, women seem to visibly pull off collars as a solo look better in my opinion).
ReplyDeleteI too, am a male - more dominant than sub. I bought a 3/8" thick collar from Ring of Steel for my wife, but she immediately had a negative reaction to it. After getting over the initial reluctance, she has worn it whenever I've asked and has worn it out once or twice. She fears that everyone going to see it and think she's some hardcore fetish queen or something. *sigh* I have since bought her another RoS collar that is slightly thinner at 1/4". She has worn that one out more than the first when I've asked her to, but only likely because it is far easier passed off as jewelry. I've stopped asking because it's been made pretty clear that it's "just for me" and that really extracts most of the "specialness" out of it. But I loved the look so much I actually then bought another RoS collar for myself and ... I absolutely love wearing mine. She tolerates me wearing it, but again ... would prefer I didn't. I've been wearing it for about 8 months now, on and off, sometimes for as long as a week at a time. I can count on one hand how many times someone has actually noticed it and not once was the comment negative. It makes me feel a little edgy, different, and maybe even a little bit controversial. My favourite look is dressed all in black... black shoes, black pants, black button up shirt with the top button undone and my shiny stainless steel collar peeking out from underneath. I only wish that I could wear it 24/7 OR her wear hers 24/7, but I'll take what I can get. Regards...
DeleteAnother collar-loving male here. My gf quite likes me wearing leather wristbands or a leather thong round my neck, possibly a leather choker or collar (need to explore that one more :D). I also have a couple of ROS type collars and wore one a few days back when I was out with her for the day. I think she was a bit surprised as some people we passed would have seen it, but she was pretty cool with it. Then since Monday (it's now Weds eve) I've been wearing both collars 24/7 including when we are out and about. As we're on holiday it's much easier than at home :) My gf prefers the leather to the steel which she finds a bit "alternative", and wonders what other people must be thinking when they see them. Maybe I've just reached a stage in life where I don't care so much anymore... The collars are pretty visible most of the time as they are reasonably close fitting and are stacked just at the bottom of my neck. As the weather's been good I've sometimes just been wearing a T-shirt so the 2 collars are then completely visible round my neck. Mostly we've been out walking in the countryside so have not met so many people but there have been some and we have also been into the odd shop and bar. No one has said anything, apart from "hello/hi" (it's all to easy to imagine negative reactions which aren't there), the only reaction I've noticed (I'm not looking too hard) was a woman whose eyes definitely flicked down to my 14-hole DMs which were laced right up to the top. I was also wearing a punk spiked leather belt - maybe that's an easier way of pulling it off, as a punk thing. I'm planning to keep the collars on till we get home this weekend. As the previous poster says, it's good to make the most of what I can get even if it's not everything I might want - I'm very lucky my gf is so accepting, even if she doesn't particularly like the steel collars or want to wear one herself. Even a week ago, how ever much I might have dreamt about it I never in a million years thought I'd actually be wandering around in public openly wearing 2 steel collars. So maybe everyone is thinking "bondage" or "weird" or "cool" or "I wish I had the nerve to do that" or "sub", I have no idea. But is it any of my business what they are thinking ;-)
DeleteAs I said I'm really enjoying wearing these collars and hope any of you out there who want to do something similar, or different, but ultimately harmless, are able to do so. We are the lucky ones I guess and need to remember that.