Friday, May 16, 2014

How to make love last

This is a long article but I think it is interesting. It says one problem in marriages and relationships is that people tend to get bored after a while. It also says that over time, arranged marriages tend to be better than love ones because the people in arranged marriages spend more time in trying to make it work.


They also say don't try to change your partner but idealize your spouse to make it think as if he/she is better than he/she really is. And do exciting things together.


Since many of us are in D/s marriages or relationships, let me add my two cents worth. I think we are less likely to get bored in these relationships because they are more creative when you are doing things like giving or receiving spankings or bondage or being dominant or submissive.


I think the article is worth the read and will be interested in your comments and thoughts.


http://theweek.com/article/index/260723/how-to-live-happily-ever-after-according-to-science?utm_hp_ref=weddings&ir=Weddings


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7 comments:

  1. Bored kinky people can be dangerous. Things get interesting fast.

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  2. Yes they can. Sounds like they are interesting for you.

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  3. 40+ years and sometimes bored to tears and other times higher than a kite. It's surviving the peaks and valleys and knowing eventually both will come to an end before it reverses itself.
    I think that sometimes people give up to quickly.

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    1. Yes, there are peaks and valleys and it could be that some people give up too quickly at times.

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  4. I've never been easily bored, so for me, this issue really doesn't exist. In 30 years I was never bored with my ex, and in over three years I've never been bored with Master. I think it really comes down to how much you enjoy your own company, so not bored with yourself, and if you you enjoy the company of the person you're in the relationship with.

    For me, it's never been about variety of activities together and such, it's purely about enjoying their company. If I have that, I'm never bored. I'd be perfectly content sitting around with Master watching TV and eating yummy food and having occasional sex, the same exact way, forever.

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    1. Yes, enjoying the company of the person you are in a relationship with is so important. Watching TV with yummy food and occasional sex (or maybe more than occasional) sounds good.

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  5. I do get bored easily, it's one of my flaws. I'm truly blessed to be married to man who's interested in pretty much everything, like I am, who also wanted a large family - which we have - and really, there's rarely a dull moment.

    I think TTWD really does almost force you into communication and intimacy and constant reflection and MORE communication, all of which are great for relationships in my opinion.

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