I still really don't buy into the concept of different types of orgasms for women. I am multiorgasmic and I will tell you that some orgasms are better than others. (I would assume that would be true for men too) I don't feel that my orgasms originate in any different place though stimulation can be done in different areas to acheive it. The feelings all seem to come from the same area. I do agree that going solo is probably one of the most helpful ways for women to learn about their own orgasms. I would suggest trying lots of things alone to see what excites you. This is important because if you know what you like and what you don't like you are more able to express this and get what you want. Otherwise my expereince has been that men will just do what they want. The best thing women can do both for their orgasm and for a postive sex experence is ask for what they need and not leave it all up to their partner to figure out. I think this is why so many women are sexually unhappy. They have left in the hands of their partner.
You made a lot of great points. It's a positive that you are so in touch with your sexuality.FD