Hair or Bare for Men?

Well, the topic on women shaving certainly got a lot of feedback and I guess what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Meow suggested after noting she's had her share of pubic hair in her mouth that I ask about men shaving down there. Or in any other place on their bodies. Are there any men who like to shave their chests for example?

OK, guys this is your turn to tell us if you have an interest in shaving. Or if you're not into posting, maybe their women can tell us about them. We had a few men mentioned in the original post. I'll start off by saying I'm not into shaving, but that's just me.

By the way, most of the women who commented on the previous post were into shaving. Are there a few more who aren't into shaving who would like to comment. Feel free to give your thoughts.

And happy Halloween everybody. Hope you have a lot of goblins and ghosts visiting your home.

FD

To Shave or Not To Shave

I promised a lighter topic this time although I want to thank all of you who read and commented on my last post.

Anyway, I thought it was time to write about women shaving. What prompted this topic was the lovely PK writing about her husband shaving what she called her kitty. I have to admit that sounds like a great scene to have him do it. I wonder if any of our other readers have a man in their life interested in doing it.

But I'm also interested in the whole topic of women shaving. We now take it for granted that women shave their armpits and legs, but how did it start? Googling the topic, one theory is that Gillette started an ad campaign from about 1915 to 1920 to convince women to do it.

Shaving down there is, of course, a much more recent phenomenon. In fact, in BDSM fiction, it was considered a kink like 30 years ago for a dom to tell his sub to shave and now it's mainstream and waxing is an industry. I've heard theories that brief bikinis was one reason it got started. The interesting thing was that when Playboy first started, it wasn't allowed to show any bush. It was a taboo.

So I just thought it'd be interesting to see if anyone wants to ccomment on why they shave or how much they shave. Do women like being shaved or do they do it for their man? Do they shave completely, leave a landing strip, just a trim or not shave at all. And do they wax or not? And do they find it a pain in the neck (wrong metaphor lol) to do it. Do our male readers like it or not?

One of my younger colleagues told me most women he slept with shaved but one who didn't the first time they had sex had shaved by the second time so some younger women feel it's the thing to do when they have a partner, but don't bother if they don't.

As far as my views, I'm kind of ambivalent about it. I remember the days when it was such a taboo that I can find the unshaven look appealing. But then the shaved look can also be enticing.

So I'm throwing the topic out on the floor. I'm not sure whether many people will want to comment, but I feel we often share personal stuff on the blogs so I'd see if there is interest in commenting. At the very least, I think the topic will get a lot of hits.

Your thoughts?

Pussy Torture

Did I get you to click on with that title? There was a bit of P.T. Barnum in that title. I read one blogger who said she got a lot of hits with those words. This blog has nothing to do with pussy or torture.

This is about a serious subject and I don't go all be Debbie Downer on you, but I want to encourage 50 plus guys to visit their doctors for a physical once a year. And to get a PSA test for the prostate.

Women are very good about getting mammograms and promoting awareness of breast cancer, which is a very worthy effort. Even when I picked up a Cheerios box today, there was a reference to pink.

But the subject of prostate cancer, which ultimately afflicts a huge number of men, gets very little attention. And many men don't go to the doctor until it's too late. My dad was one of those and he died of the disease in his 70s.

That's why I go yearly for a physical and the test. My number has been creeping up the last few years and went up a point last year even though it was still under the so-called normal level. But given my family history, the doc scheduled a biopsy. It came back negative. You can imagine that made my week. If it had been positive, it would have been early and it's very curable when it's found early.

So if you're a 50 plus guy who hasn't gone to the doctor in a while, schedule an appointment. If you're a woman who has a 50 plus guy in your life who hasn't gone lately, do some gentle nagging. Tell him some idiot blogger gave you the idea.

Ok, enough of my nagging. And if I got you here under false pretences, I hope you don't mind the message. I figure a title with the word prostate in it would be easy to ignore.

And now we'll go back to our regularly scheduled programming in the future with more fun topics. And one of these days, by popular demand, I'll write another Lisa chapter. OK, popular demand means a few requests.

I'll even really talk about pussy next time. Shaving it.

Oh, and thanks to everybody who stopped by on lurkers day and you lurkers don't have to wait until next year's lurkers day to say hello. We always have the welcoming mat out.

FD

Love Our Lurkers IV

If you're a lurker -- a reader who hasn't commented in the past -- today is your day.

Bonnie of bottomsmarts is sponsoring her fourth Love Our Lurkers day to encourage readers who don't usually post to say hello. You'll find a lot of bloggers participating and we're all inviting you to become active members of our community.

I understand the value of lurkers day because a year ago, I was a lurker who decided to sign up (it's easy to do) and start commenting after I was encouraged to try it on lurkers day. A year later, I have my own blog, which I never expected to happen.

You'll find this a very welcoming community because we all like to get feedback from our readers. The comments give us the idea that we're connecting with our readers.

So give it a try. Say hello. Tell us about yourself. We'll be happy to hear from you.

Florida Dom

Cutting Back

This is a spinoff of my post about talking to each other while eating out.

I wonder if any of you have cut back on the number of times you eat out because of the recession.

We're still fortunate enough to stick to about once a week (our daughters are out of college and on their own so that means we have more leeway on spending) but it seems as if restaurants aren't as crowded as they were a couple of years ago.

Not sure if that's an accurate perception or not. I often ask restaurant managers how they're doing and get mixed answers. Seems to depend on the place and type of restaurant.

FD

Eating Alone Together

When we were still engaged and dining at a restaurant on vacation at Marsha's Vineyard, we were asked by the waiter or waitress (can't remember now) if we were newlyweds. I guess we were showing off that glow of new love. Oh, those were the days.

And decades later, we're still together so we stayed the course, but it's now different when we go out to dinner. We sometimes have trouble finding enough to talk about. In fact, I'd rather go out with another couple so we have new topics to discuss. It's not that we don't communicate. We have many similiar interests. But the fact that we do communicate on a day-to-day basis seems to mean that when we go out, we've exhausted our topics.

I don't think this is an unusual situation because I often read about it. What reminded me is when KayLynn commented on my last post that when they were younger, they saw a ccouple now their age not talking much at a restaurant and she said she hoped they didn't reach that stage. But she says they still feel complete together.

Anyway, I just thought I'd bring up this topic to see if other couples in long term relationships have this same situation when they go out to dinner together.

I'd be interested in your thoughts.

FD

Caring Men

In a comment on my most recent post, Sara made the good observation that there are two kinds of men -- selforiented men and caring men.

That made me think that caring men do the little things --like talking to the woman in their life. Women tend to be better at talking about their feelings than men and women sometimes are frustrated that the men in their lives don't talk to them enough.

So I thought I'd ask what our women readers think. Is this a problem for the man in your life or is he good at it?

I happen to like to talk to women because they tend to be better at communicating about the important things in their lives and have interesting conversations.

Your thoughts.

FD