Cuming!!!

There were a lot of good comments on the subject of whether you'd prefer to make your partner cum or cum yourself.

The majority preferred to pleasure him.

But Southern Girl made the comment that "Women usually have a tougher time than men do in this area...when someone does take the time to try and unlock my inner slut and find my somewhate elusive O...they are rewarded heartily.''

And cultivateddiscipline said, "I don't want a guy to work overtime to make me orgasm just becasue he views it as tit for tat.''

I thought this leads to a question. Do you know early on whether you'll be able to cum and it doesn't matter how long he tries, it's not your day -- or night. Or if he does take the time and knows how to, can he unlock you?

And if he is trying too hard and you know it's not going to happen, do you fake it to let him think he got you off?

Your thoughts?

FD

Pleasing Your Partner

I was just reading Aurore's blog (dangerousliaisons-aurore.blogspot.com) and she said in answer to a question that she'd prefer to make her partner cum than cum herself. She said her level of satisfaction was higher if she made her partner cum than if she came herself. She said she was more into pleasing her partner than pleasing herself. She said she likes cuming but preferred pleasing her partner.

I thought this was an interesting topic so I thought I'd ask the readers: do you agree or disagree?

Of course, I would think the ideal is that you both cum but do you prefer making your partner cum than cuming yourself?

Your thoughts?

FD

Wearing Perfume

I read an article about a British fragrance retailer that polled 3000 women on the scents with the most man attracting power.

Chanel No. 5 was first but then it is the best seller. The others were Be Delicious by DKNY, Ghost by Ghost, Eternity for Women by Calvin Klein, Hugo Women by Hugo, Classique by Jean Paul Gaultier, Cool Water by Davidoff, Angel by Thierry Mugler, Anais Anais by Cacharel and Obsession by Calvin Klein.

Here's the questions:

Do you wear perfume and if so, all the time, at work or just going out? Do you wear perfume if you're staying in all day?

Do you wear any of these top-rated ones?

Do you think perfumes attract men?

Or do you wear perfume because you feel good about yourself when you wear perfume?

Does the man in your life want you to wear perfume or doesn't he care?

Where do you wear it on your body?

And if you don't wear it, why not?

I thought we might get some interesting answers.

Your thoughts.

FD

Being the Breadwinner

One of our new bloggers posted today that she is about to become the breadwinner in the family and she may find it difficult to come home and have her husband put the dinner on the table and yet still be in control.

Yet she says with the stresses at work, she may need more than ever to submit. Yet they're also new at TTWD so it may be somewhat confusing.

So I thought I'd ask our readers for their take on this. Do any of you have first-hand knowledge of being the breadwinner and yet submitting?

I think many women are take charge types on the job and yet like to submit at home. It's the premise for my Lisa series. Now it may be different if the husband is staying home but I think they can make it work but I thought I'd ask for some advice from our readers.

Your thoughts?

FD

The Woman Who Didn't Know She was Pregnant

I don't know if any of you watched 20-20 Friday night (and obviously our readers outside the U.S. didn't) so I'll give a brief recap.

It was a story of a woman in Michigan who had three previous children and put on 60 pounds for one of them gained only 10 pounds and had a full term nine pound, 10 ounce baby without knowing she was pregnant. She said she didn't have morning sickness, felt no kicking and had an irregular cycle so that didn't alarm her.

But one night, she was having cramps, gave birth in the middle of the night in her bathtub and they played the frantic 911 call her husband made. The dispatcher, a 36-year-old woman, was on the job for the first night, calmed him down as he said there was blood all over the tub, told him to get a towel and wipe the baby's eyes and face and a shoestring to tie the cord six inches from the belly. One of their kids ran to get a shoelace from his sneakers and then the father told them to get out of the bathroom. The paramedics were 20 miles away and the hospital was 25. The mother was worried the baby wouldn't be healthy because of the lack of pre-natal care, but he's completely healthy and is now almost a year old.

Now for the kicker of the story. The husband had a vasectomy six years ago. But the wife said to him, I know what you're thinking but don't go there and that was their only discussion. He went back to his doctor and being a typical male, he'd never gone back for a followup after having the procedure and the doctor said in a million to one shot his tubes had reopened. The husband didn't ask for a DNA test to prove the baby was his. He was convinced.

So if you saw the show or just read my summation, I'm wondering if any of the mothers out there gained only 10 pounds in a pregnancy and didn't look pregnant and if any didn't realize they were pregnant for a few months. And if the man in your life had a vasectomy and you got pregnant by him, would he be as understanding as this guy was.

Your thoughts.

FD

P.S. If you read the comments, there's a reference to a new web site that might interest you.

Buying New Clothes

In the Annie Mailbox column today, there was a comment from a husband of 19 years who complained that his wife won't buy new clothes and wears out of date, ill-fitting stuff.

The authors commented on how refreshing to find a man who wants his wife to spend money on clothes.

So I thought this would be an interesting topic. I know women tend to have a reputation for loving to shop, but I also know that some don't like to or can never find anything they think looks good on them.

So the questions are: Do you like to shop or not? Do you feel you buy too many clothes or not? Does the man in your life think you spend too much money on clothes or likes you to buynew clothes and compliments you when you do? Do you shop for bargains and do you pay full price?

Anyway, let's hear what women have to say about their clothes shopping habits and what the men in their life think about those habits. Men are allowed to comment, too, on their opinion of their wives' clothes shopping.

FD

The Perfect Gift

If you've read recent chapters of my Lisa series (and I know I'm behind and hope to write another chapter soon), I had Lisa getting a Tiffany's necklace to wear in public as her collar to go with the real collar symbolizing her submission that she wears at home.

Like the rest of the story, this was a product of my fantasies. Well, lo and behold, I'm reading memoirs of a harem slave (haremslave.blogspot.com), and there's a reference to a Tiffany's padlock pendant. And there's a link to it on the Tiffany page. It says it's a timeless Tiffany favorite with a round brilliant diamond.

And all for the bargain basement price of just $575. I know, I know, you're paying for the Tiffany name and I'm sure it doesn't fit the budget of many of our bloggers.

But if you can afford it, I thought what better gift for your sub. She can wear it in public and be proud of it and nobody out of the lifestyle would be wiser about what it is really symbolizes.

So if you really want to impress your sub for an anniversary, Christmas, Valentine's Day or even Mother's Day present, this is perfect. I always say you never gone go wrong with flowers but this is much more spectacular.

And all you subs out there, if the man in your life is looking for a special present, you can give him a hint.

FD

P.S. If you click on the comments, some of the bloggers have been kind offer to suggest some less expensive alternatives that may fit your budget.

It's Still a Man's World

I don't know how many of you read Newsweek but they had a story about the progress women have made and haven't.

They report that despite having earned higher college GPAs in every subject, young women will take home, on average across all the professions, 80 per cent of what their male colleagues do. Female MBAs make $4,600 less a year.

The fact that women drop out of the business world to become mothers is sometimes blamed for the problem but a decade out of college, full-time working women who haven't had children make 77 cents on the male dollar.

At Newsweek, men wrote all but six of the 49 cover stories last year. In 1970, women were only 25 percent on the masthead. Now it's up to 39 per cent, an improvement but not equality. Women are three per cent of Fortune 500 CEOs and less than a quarter of law parnters and poliiticians.

And then there's the problem that women who do get ahead are often criticized. Nancy Polesi will go into the history books as an effective Speaker of the House and yet the N.Y,. Times called her "scary tough'' in an article supposedly lauding her for rounding up the votes for health care. At least they didn't call her the b word. For a man being called "scary tough'' is a compliment (LBJ was noted for twisting arms) but it isn't considered a plus for women.

And Newsweek also noted that when a woman gets ahead, there is often talk about were her looks a factor. And male superiors sometimes tell them to "use their sexuality'' to get ahead.

And 45 per cent of women are secretaries, nurses, teachers and cashiers.Not that there's anything wrong with those jobs but they don't tend to be high-paying jobs. And teachers often get blamed when their parents don't insist they do their homework.

And on and on. I wonder what are women bloggers think about the opportunities they have and haven't had and if they think things will be better for their daughters. Or will it continue to be a man's world?

FD