There were a lot of good comments on the subject of whether you'd prefer to make your partner cum or cum yourself.
The majority preferred to pleasure him.
But Southern Girl made the comment that "Women usually have a tougher time than men do in this area...when someone does take the time to try and unlock my inner slut and find my somewhate elusive O...they are rewarded heartily.''
And cultivateddiscipline said, "I don't want a guy to work overtime to make me orgasm just becasue he views it as tit for tat.''
I thought this leads to a question. Do you know early on whether you'll be able to cum and it doesn't matter how long he tries, it's not your day -- or night. Or if he does take the time and knows how to, can he unlock you?
And if he is trying too hard and you know it's not going to happen, do you fake it to let him think he got you off?
Your thoughts?
FD
Virtue
1 hour ago
I know when my heads not in it it ain't gonna happen. Would I fake it? Come on FD, a girl has to have some secrets.
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PK
I can tell pretty quickly when it's going to be possible and when it's not. Those rules fly out the window as soon as he pulls the vibrator out though. There are a few places that he can press that and an orgasm is almost guaranteed.
ReplyDeleteI have totally faked before. It would actually surprise me if there are women out there who haven't. I just haven't wanted to disappoint the guy. I think that there are a lot of men out there (particularly some of the younger, less experienced men) who don't really understand that women don't cum nearly as easily as a man does (not to say that it isn't difficult for men at times).
Great questions, FD!
ReplyDeleteI never thought I'd be writing this (how far I've come/cum in such a short time!), but the only one who knows whether or not I'll cum is my Daddy/Master. I'm not allowed to orgasm without his permission, so it's always up to him whether or not I'll cum.
Now, for those of you who might be appalled by this thought, there is a flip side! If Daddy does decide to make me cum, all he has to do is command it and, within moments, I'm writhing beneath him in mind-blowing ecstasy. It's not a bad trade-off, wouldn't you say? ;)
Take care,
Baby Girl :)
First of all, it's not up to me if I get to get off or not. It's up to Master. He is MASTER and I am slave. The choice is his. Because of that I don't go into it thinking whether or not I will be getting off.
ReplyDeleteI would _never_ fake it either. Faking it is (in my opinion) lying about it. In any relationship no matter how good the sex is, there will be times where a partner doesn't get off. That's just part of life. If it looks like I won't be able to get off though (normally due to pure exhaustion or my emotional state) I am to let him know, he will then decide if he wants to continue trying anyway, or if he will get off and we'll just worry about my cumming later. To date though, this hasn't happened. Master has gotten me off every single time. To the point that even the neighbors have noticed ;)
I've never faked it, but with Asha I don't have to. He is the first and only man to ever make me have an orgasm before him. Usually I couldn't have one until he did, but now OMG... is it wrong to say that sometimes I get tired of having orgasms???
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I so did fake it in the past.And always felt bad with it.I agree with ariia, it is indeed kind of lying.And that is not something I want.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I really did set my mind on never faking it again. And it seems like I am on a good path.
Yes I faked it (what women hasn't) when I was a lot younger the boy I was going out with was a real dish and I didn't want to knock his confidence.
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Ronnie
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I don't think I'd fake an orgasm to please my partner, and I'd ask them that they not fake any either. It is lying, and it's certainly not a good thing to lie about! I'd rather be told I was doing something wrong, or to try a different method rather than be tricked into thinking I'm doing a good job.
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LOL
ReplyDeleteI've faked it in the past -- Mr. C and I talked about this once and made me realize that I could only fake it effectively with someone who's never made me cum before. (I believe the term Mr. C used was 'crushing')
If I'm not going to make it I almost always know from the get go -- as an adult now -- I will admit it early on and then work on getting him off instead.
sfp
This is rather interesting to me as I recently began having a harder time orgasming due to medication I am on. At first I could not reach orgasm or it seemed to be so much work I felt kinda turned off by Master having to work so hard for it. After more trails and reassurance from Him I feel as though He is beginning to unlock me so to speak.
ReplyDeleteHi FD,
ReplyDeleteI have faked it in the past with past lovers but I have not had to with Master C. But my joy comes from making him satisfied. If he is happy that is all I need to complete my O. Muliple times I might add.
Terrific question and "yes" I generally know very early on whether I can or can't cum with him. And it's not so much a question of his techniques and skills but more about a quiet understanding passing between us and his understanding and acceptance that it really is different for girls.
ReplyDeleteVery interesting comments.
ReplyDeleteAs a guy, I know that someone must've faked it with me; I hope it isn't often.
I try to be a good lover, and hope I succeed.
I don't feel the need to fake it now. I can cum most of the time. But there are times where I get pleasure just getting him off without trying for my own orgasm.
ReplyDeleteUnlike many here.... I don't have a 'master' to train me in the orgasmic arts :) And am the first to admit it is probably focus / concentration stuff for me anyway. I do not fake and do still enjoy even if the O is hiding somewhere unwilling to surface.
ReplyDeleteDamn...May I just say I do so admire women who can multiple O (yeah those are elusive to me as well).
Great ponderings FD!!
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PK: You can just tell me your secrets. I won't tell. LOL.
ReplyDeleteTrueBlue: How nice that the vibe has that effect on you.
Baby Girl: Yes, that's a good tradeoff.
ariia: So the neighbors can tell!!! Those must be some orgasms.
turlya: You must have a lot of them if you get tired of them.
lawyer: good to hear it seems like you're on a good path.
ronnie: How nice of you to think about his self-confidence.
kelsi: I agree you don't want to be tricked into thinking you're uoudoing a good job.
strivingforpeace: It would seem to be hard to fake it with a guy who's seen you cum before. Unless you're Meg Ryan, of course. LOL. After that movie, I figure the man in her life would never know for sure because she's so good at faking.
viemoira: good to hear he can unlock you despite the meds.
reina(RT): You must like the multiple times part.
Ella: Yes, it is different for women in many cases.
Ronald10022: the women in your life must appreciate the fact you try to be a good lover.
JustSaying: good that you cum most of the time and can be happy getting him off when you don't.
southerngirl: good luck on getting a Master in the future to train you. Maybe that would help get you to have multiple ones.
Had to fake it the whole four years with the first husband. Second husband, never. Don't have to fake anything because he ALWAYS gets me off. He has a magic dick, I swear. Two or three thrusts and I'm gone-o. And again. And again. And again. He's amazing.
ReplyDeleteBut the first eleven guys I slept with didn't get me off except when they went down on me. But Hubby makes me caaaraaaazy with lust. 23 years and counting, I'm a very happy girl.
I feel sorry for the ladies who have to fake it. But I've been there. It was the only way to make the jerk quit and get off me. Ick. (shudder)
Sooooo happy now.
Michelle: Sorry about those first 11, but great to hear you found the guy with the magic dick. You must have been getting frustrated before he arrived on the scene.
ReplyDeleteFD
I've never had an orgasm...I've squirted, but not cummed. Isn't that amazing? I have had bad experience with prideful sex partners who would insist that they were the one who would make me cum so they would go at me for much longer than I wanted. So if I get someone who I think might be like that, then yes - I absolutely fake it!
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Ivy
I guess I know whether it will happen or not for me. With pleasure only it's the easiest thing in the world but when He is putting me through pain and pleasure together and generously tells me: "You are allowed to cum if you want to" I can pretty much know if I will be able or not (and I usually am...:) ). If I feel that I won't, I don't even try to make it happen... usually, on these occasions, I am already using all my energy to endure the pain.
ReplyDeleteI happen to be one who can cum rather easy. The only reason I do not have an orgasm is when HE cums to fast (you know what I mean). I don't have to fake that one because they know I didn't cum and they spend so much time apologizing for something they already know!!!
ReplyDeleteI have to admit that I can cum so fast with penetration. It does take me a while to cum with oral, oddly enough.
Ivy and Haley: I will visit your site and was surprised that you squirt without an orgrasm. I thought squirting went with having an orgasm. I guess you can always learn something new.
ReplyDeleteAmasterandhissub: I would think pain and pleasure together is quite an experience for you.
Playfully yours: Interesting that you can cum faster with penetration than orally. I would think the oral stimulation of your clit wouldn't take long to make you cum but I guess that doesn't happen in your case.
goodness I never have a problem unless I have a issue with my digestion. truth is just sitting before him looking deep in his eyes or getting a deep passionate kiss not even being touched can make me cum. But then I am highly motivated in that way. I think of the past in truth I was bored much the time. I never had what I have now it is just perfect. Grins Big
ReplyDeleteMastersMuse: Good to hear you're no longer bored and that things are just perfect. You couldn't ask for more.
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I hope it's not inappropriate for me to add this, but I'm working on not cumming. Cumming is easy; having some self control and not cumming is the hard way (for me).
ReplyDeleteJonr69xxx: Good luck on your work on achieving self-control.
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