There were a lot of good comments on the subject of whether you'd prefer to make your partner cum or cum yourself.
The majority preferred to pleasure him.
But Southern Girl made the comment that "Women usually have a tougher time than men do in this area...when someone does take the time to try and unlock my inner slut and find my somewhate elusive O...they are rewarded heartily.''
And cultivateddiscipline said, "I don't want a guy to work overtime to make me orgasm just becasue he views it as tit for tat.''
I thought this leads to a question. Do you know early on whether you'll be able to cum and it doesn't matter how long he tries, it's not your day -- or night. Or if he does take the time and knows how to, can he unlock you?
And if he is trying too hard and you know it's not going to happen, do you fake it to let him think he got you off?
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