Tuesday, May 4, 2010

What happens after sex?

I know the stereotype is that the man rolls over after sex and leaves the woman frustrated because she wants some aftercare.

I don't follow that stereotype. I love aftercare. To me, cuddlling a woman who's still in the afterglow of a Big O is very satisfying. It's a sharing and reliving of the experience.

But I know stereotypes have a ring of truth. So does your man roll over for sleep or a nap after he's cum? Or does he give you aftercare? And do you want aftercare or do you like rolling over yourself?

Your thoughts.

FD

26 comments:

  1. FD

    I assume you are talking about "regular" sex or "making love." My rule is firm after care is always a must, to what degree depends greatly on what occurred during said. If play, hard use or scene is used, it is imperative. Anything less would irresponsible.

    However, mouse has been known after firm use or making love to cuddle beside me and promptly fall asleep. What about My aftercare!?

    Be well,
    Omega

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  2. grins.. FD I HAD to comment on this one .... it is ALWAYS me that is like ... yeah, um.... SNORE.... while D. is raring to cuddle, talk, share, it is like he gets a shot of adreneline for god's sake! ... it has been an ongoing joke between us for YEARS.

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  3. Great question, FD! :) After I clean Daddy up a bit, we love to cuddle, talk, and share for a while together. We usually don't make love right before bed, so sometimes we'll nap together...and then wake up and start all over again! :)

    Take care,
    Baby Girl :)

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  4. Master loves cuddling and touching after sex and so do I... I usually lay on His shoulder and we stay there for a while… The time I remember the most, our last time together, after a very rough anal sex, he just sat at my side in bed as I was laying exhausted, and started to touch my knees, gently.... My eyes were still closed, I was still breathing heavily and I just remember the feeling of the tips of His fingers, softly, on my knees.... And it's a sweet and powerful memory. That kind that makes you want more and more of the same.
    T.

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  5. Most days I enjoy aftercare with cuddling if I'm not exhausted from working too much.

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  6. So

    Damn

    Important

    His words in my ear, his hand stroking my flesh, it's lovely to say the least....

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  7. Funnily enough it is me who rolls over and goes to sleep! Master often comments on this trait of mine. Having said that, i do love to snuggle up to Master after sex, just to be close to Him.

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  8. Yep I admit, its me that rolls over. Master is much more of a cuddle person than myself.

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  9. Luna: Good to hear you like it.

    Omega: As you read the comments, you'll see that Mouse isn't alone in sometimes falling to sleep afterwards.

    Selkie: Thanks for commenting. I hope you doing well and miss your blog. Interesting that you're one of the women who would rather nap that have aftercare. I guess you show the stereotype of the woman wanting aftercare isn't always right.

    Baby Girl: Nice to nap and start all over again.

    amasterandhisub: I can understand his aftercare makes you want more and more. Sounds like he is very good at it.

    Kitten: Good to hear you enjoy it when you're not exhausted.'

    Southern Girl: Yes, it is so damn important. I can imagine how lovely it is for you.

    angel and viemoira: So you both like to roll over. I'm starting to think that stereotype isn't very accurate.

    FD

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  10. I love talking afterwards. Yep I'm a talker. lol It's where my baby and I talk of the future, truly love each other sometimes without saying a word, just melting momemt by moment into each other. Cuddling afterwards is huge for both of us. To me its the foundation of a good relationship. Cuddlers dont go to bed mad lol

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  11. Me: Love that line that cuddling is the foundation of a good relationship and that cuddlers don't go to bed mad. How true.

    FD

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  12. It depends on the time of day and what is happening. Sex for us usually happens in the morning, and sometimes there isn't alot of time for aftercare because we both have to get up and get going. If it is a lazy day then sure we spend a little time lying there together, but I think we both like to get up and clean up shortly afterwards.

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  13. naughtyinaustinMay 5, 2010 at 1:39 PM

    if the Big O, as you so eloquently put it, happens at night, it puts me right out. i never sleep better than after really intense pleasure. he will stroke my back for a few minutes and i'm down for the count. if we have a heavy scene during the day, or especially if we play with others, i need and am given a lot of aftercare. on rare occasions i experience severe sub drop, and i can get very emotional.

    so, i answer all your questions. are you not going to answer mine? :)

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  14. Well I had afternoon delight today with one of my guys and we just wanted to 'spoon' afterwards. He tickled my back and tweaked my nipples. I'm home now and still bathed in afterglow :-)

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  15. I love to just cuddle beside Master C but this never lasts long...he tends to want to get up and jog around the block. lol

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  16. Sleep - for me. Especially after rough play or pain.

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  17. This is way late here but I've been so darn busy this week...

    It depends on if we have plans later or not. Sometimes Master and I finish, get dressed and go on about our day. Other times we just lay there holding each other for a little bit. When it comes to cuddling we're both the type that fit the following statement: "it's nice for a few minutes but when I'm ready to sleep I need my space!"

    I absolutely love being held by him and he's stated that he loves holding me, but there are times where we're both like "ok you can let go now" Since he is Master though, it's always his call to make, lol.

    -ariia

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  18. i think after care entirely depends on the people. each person is different...
    the imp thing is how well ur partner (Master/slave) understands u....

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  19. Not very romantic, but we pretty much clean up immediately. Part of that is that he often cums on my body, so that isn't really conducive to lying around cuddling. Part of it is that I'm a bit obsessive about my 'girl' hygiene, so I won't lay around long being all gooey. lol

    But after that, we do tend to cuddle, although he falls asleep pretty quickly. He always jokes that cumming is the 'poor man's sleeping pill'.

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  20. Alice: Those lazy days are oh-so-nice.

    naughtyinaustin: You asked if I was going to answer your questions. I'd be happy to, but I'm not sure which questions you're referring to. I always try to reply to any questions. Feel free to post them or email me if you want. And as I've said before, you should start a blog.

    Leah: I can imagine you enjoyed that afterglow.

    reina(RT): If he wants to jog around the block, I guess you rev him up. LOL.

    sin: I can imagine you enjoy that sleep.

    ariia: I can understand at some point, the time for holding is over and you love to both roll over and sleep. But, yes, it's his call.

    aluja: Yes, it always depends on the people and thanks for stopping by my blog.

    daisy: And only good side effects from that kind of sleeping pill.

    FD

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  21. naughtyinaustin: My bad. Sorry, decided to go back in the blogs and realized you had asked me my tennis rating at the end of the perfume blog. I think I'm a 3.0 but somehow I got to be a 3.5 in the usta rating. I'm one of those baseline players who returns everything but I'm not a big hitter. And sorry for not realizing you had posted on the bottom of the perfume blog but I had been traveling 8 of 11 days and had gotten behind. Do you want to share your rating?

    FD

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  22. Well, like you I think I'm overrated;) computer says 4.5, but I feel more like a strong 4.0. Am working on developing a better serve, though, so maybe my coach will make a 4.5 out of me yet. Hope you had a great trip. I'm about to hit the courts now, for the third day in a row. Life is good!

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  23. naughtyinaustin: Congrats on being a 4.5 or a strong 4.0. And great that you have a coach and are improving. I'm kind of self-taught.
    You must be quite a player. Do you play competitively on a team? I play at a Y that has about a dozen clay courts and play occasionally on a men's team and a mixed doubles team but it's a fun thing and not too competitive. I play about 5-6 times a week when I can. I really enjoy playing.

    FD

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  24. I'd have to say that most of the times I like to roll over myself and have a little snooze. It's just that sometimes after I've had a particuarily strong orgasm I can't actually be touched for a while. Sometimes I wonder if I'm a guy!?

    Jess x

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  25. Hi FD
    After care is so important to sailor and I. We always cuddle, Ilove to lay in his arms after sex. and sometimes he lays in mine, I love it when he does.
    Hugs
    Lil Sam

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