I promised I'd get back to sexier topics and what's sexier than sex? I thought it'd be fun to share your first sexual experience, sexual intercourse that is. How old were you? Was it great, good, fair, disappointing, memorable, forgettable, regrettable? Did you first experience lead to a long term relationship? What are your memories of that experience?
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FD
Virtue
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I was a month from being 16. We were hanging out at his house, waiting to go to a movie with a group of friends. He lived right behind the theater, so we were just going to meet them there. Out back was a small shed, just big enough to fit a full size pool table, if you played with the shorter-sized sticks. That's what we were doing while we waited. Both his parents worked. We'd done a few things-sexually, but intercourse hadn't been one of them. I kept on leaning over the table, taunting him with my body, trying to fluster him so I'd win the game. I guess it finally worked, because he ended up setting his cue down and coming over, pushing me to my knees, and filling my mouth with his own personal cue. I'd only done that for him a couple of times before that, but I'd liked it. At some point, he pulled me up, leaned me back on the table, and, to my surprise, pushed me back so that I was lying on top of it. I felt very sexy lying there, wondering what was going to happen next. It was sort of clumsy, because we were both virgins. I was very tight, I suppose, because he had a heck of a time getting it in there. It hurt a little, and when I looked after the movie, there was some blood in my panties. I think it lasted less than a minute. :) But it was nice too. (I'm sure I was lucky that way.) We barely watched the movie, I don't have a clue what it even was! We dated for about 2 years total. For a first experience I'd say it was pretty sexy, and, that was pretty detailed, so I guess it was memorable!
ReplyDeleteLittle Butterfly: Thanks for sharing all the details. You obviously still have vivid memories but then I think the first time is something we don't forget. And not surprising that the first time was a bit clumsy and you were a bit tight. That's probably quite common. And I hope more of the readers will share the way you did.
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I was 16 and he was 32. He was my gym instructor and I was completely obsessed with him... :)
ReplyDeleteIt was a nice experience, He knew it was my first time, he took great care of me and made me enjoy it a lot. Painful, of course it was, but hey, we all enjoy a little bit of pain here! ;) We were together for almost one year after it... And I definetely carry good memories with me.
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amasterandhissub: It's nice that you carry good memories and that he took such great care of you and you enjoyed it.
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my first time was on my wedding night..i was 16 he was 22.(in Montana you can get married with a parents signiture)He was very considerate and sweet..it was painful but still nice...The worst part was that he wanted to do it another 5 or 6 times before morning...
ReplyDeleteLOL..we were married for 15 years.And to be honest our sex life was awesome.
Unfortunately for me my first time was nonconsensual and therefore a horrible experience. Although I will never be over what happened I have been able to move past it and put it behind me. The next time after that was with my now husband. We moved very slowly because of what happened in my past, but eventually we worked past the flashbacks and what had once been a horrid and ugly thing to me turned into something pleasurable with him. He was very gentle and worked hard to keep me with him so that I wouldn't sink into any flashbacks. There was alot of trial and error, and alot of patience on his part.
ReplyDeleteSince I can't participate in this one, I'm gonna request that you tell us about your first time, FD. :)
ReplyDeleteI was 16 he was 19. We had agreed to wait til we were married for many months but the desire just kept getting stronger. We decided, in our virginal way of thinking, that we would "do it" just once then the desire wouldn't be as strong because the mystery would be over with. Yes we were both virgins.
ReplyDeleteIt was clumsy, awkward, painful and beautiful all at the same time. I would have loved to say that it was all candlelight and roses, a beautiful hotel room and time to explore and learn about each others wants and desires. That however comes with age and experience.
I am happy to say however that 29 years later he is still the love of my life, the only man I have ever given myself to and that since that day we have had many wonderful nights filled with candlelight, roses and beautiful hotel rooms.
What we did learn that day....once you've had it you only want MORE!!!! LOL...there went our theory of "Just do it" and the desire won't be as strong!!!!
What is this about losing it at 16?
ReplyDeleteFor me, the event was long-planned and it took two tries to get me inside without causing my lover too much pain. (Her first, too.) After success, we went out for a bagel, came back, and did it again.
mine was very regrettable... 14 and against my will. The next time I was 16 and trying toprove a point. The boy couldnt get hard so we lied and told everyone it was amazing!
ReplyDeleteI was 14, he was 19. He didn't ask, just took, and I was so scared and shocked I didn't make a sound. I'm 49 now. He did let me know, about 20 years ago, through a mutual friend, that he was concerned about what he had done and remorseful for his teenage stupoidity. I'm OK now, but it was rough going for a few years.
ReplyDeleteMy second experience was typical fumbling teenagers in love, a year later. Not fabulous, but sweet.
i was fourteen. it was not enjoyable.
ReplyDeleteI was 14, so was he. It was on a mattress in his garage and it was terribly disapointing! I remember thinking what the hell was all the fuss about!
ReplyDeleteGood grief I feel ancient! Most of my friends experienced their first time between 16 and 18. I felt left behind but I wanted to wait until it felt right. Finally it did, but I was 24 years old!! It was with Nick and it was alright. Nothing as wonderful as it is now but not bad. So anyone out there any older that I was?
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16 and goodness he used shampoo for lube -- it was a bloody mess and *not* my fondest memory. :)
ReplyDeleteIt was 16 for me too! He was 16 as well and it happened at his parents house in his bedroom. i remember it well. It was quite a short experience but a good one!! Have never looked back :) angel x
ReplyDelete16 seems like a popular age to lose one's virginity around here! ;) But I actually lost mine on my 18th birthday to my boyfriend at the time (we broke up a few months later)...painful (I cried it hurt so much), sort of a let-down, but at least I wanted to keep trying...and boy, am I glad I did! :)
ReplyDeleteHow about you, FD? :)
Take care,
Baby Girl :)
13 being raped by my step father ...no sweet memory in my life .........only dark .....................i wish everything can start again
ReplyDeleteI was fourteen and it was almost the worst sex. lol
ReplyDeleteIt was spur of the moment no real foreplay. I didn't feel much and I knew this wasn't what I had seen in the movies--know what I mean??!!! I knew what an orgasm was and their wasn't one for the minutes this lasted. Now the second time I had sex (not with him) was amazing and the orgasms just flowed like water.
I was the last one of my group to do the deed but I had earned a reputation as a slut because I used to stay out all night with guys and people so everyone assumed I had done it but I hadn't.
themountaingirl: How nice he was considerate and sweet and that it was painful but nice, especially since you were only 16. And glad to hear your sex life with him was awesome.
ReplyDeleteAlice: Very sorry about the nonconsensual part and how fortunate that your husband had a lot of patience and helped you overcome the flashbacks. As you said, you never get over something like that but good to hear you've put it behind you although I hope you had some counseling along the way.
TrueBlue: She asked that I tell about my first time since she hasn't had a first time, and, TB, I hope it turns out to be a lovely experience when you do have the first time because you seem to waiting for the right moment. Anyway, mine first was on our wedding night in a hotel room at JFK airport as we waited our flight the next day to Jamaica for our honeymoon. And some relative called in the middle of it to spoil the mood. Can you imagine somebody calling on that night of all nights? Why we told them where we would be I'll never know. We got it right in Jamaica. The part you won't believe is that I was 28. What can I say? It was a different time. I've got PK beat by four years.
Janet: I had to chuckle at the idea that if you did it once, the desire wouldn't be so strong. As we know, it doesn't work that way. LOL. But how nice that 29 years later, he's still the love of your life.
virtualsin: So how old were you? Good to hear it was a success and I hope the bagel was good, too.
heelsinstocking: Sorry to hear it was against your will at 14.
KellyRed: Another bad experience at 14. Sorry.
Belle: And yours wasn't enjoyable at 14, either.
shapesifter: A shame it was so disappointing at 14.
PK: Well, I think you're No. 2 at 24 to my 28. And how nice you're still together.
southerngirl: Shampoo???? I can imagine it's not your fondest memory.
Master's angel: How fortunate you had a good experience at 14.
BG: glad you kept trying and I've already detailed my adventures.
Miss casanova: Oh, I'm terribly sorry. What an awful thing to happen to a 13-year-old. And I hope you got some counseling along the way.'
PV: Glad the second time was better than the first. And it's an interesting thing about how inaccurate reputations can be.
And I want to thank everyone who has shared -- even the ones with unfortunate memories -- and hope that more will. The wonderful thing about anonymous blogging is that we can share things we normally wouldn't. Interesting that nobody wrote I can't even remember my first time. I guess it's an event we never forget.
FD
Wow, I was 16 too. (I will remember that when my daughter is 16) Anyway I had sex with, who would be my husband and now exhusband so in a way I guess sex turned out to be a good thing for us. It was in a field in a little 1991 Civic Hatchback (remember those? lol)
ReplyDeleteThe First time wasnt all that great but practice makes perfect. Boy I wish that were true for him...LOL
Oh hell. Here we go (b/c I was just thinking about this the other day)
ReplyDeleteBTW, this wasn't my first "sexual" experience but it was my first "time."
Was 16, out with a boy that I had gone to Prom with and we had fooled around mostly but didn't consider each other bf and gf. I wasn't fooling myself with this guy.
All I remember is that we tried doing it in his little '86 Toyota Tacoma, in the cab. It hurt too bad for me to let him get any satisfaction. And then he took me home. Its no wonder I have no sexual interest in this person.
The first ALL the WAY time was with a man 5 years my senior (later that year)and he was ENORMOUS. It was rough but he was a very tender lover and one of my favorite people in the world. We had an on and off again relationship for almost 10 years.
at first i thought i wasn't going to comment on this one since i've never had sex, but then since there's a ranking *LOL* going on for the person who lost their virginity the last, i think i'll rank 3rd. i'm 19 and going to be 20 this month!
ReplyDeleteI was eighteen, a few months shy of my nineteenth birthday and as a friend of mine once put it "it's awful, they should have a machine do it for you that first time". Yes. Hurt like a MF. Terrible experience. I couldn't figure out why anyone would want to do it. However, I was in love and we stayed together for 3 years, but his fucking never got much better. Didn't hurt after a while, but I never came. Thankfully, he ate pussy well.
ReplyDeleteThen he left me for my best friend. I screwed ten more guys after that and none of them could make me come. I was more convinced than ever that fucking was a waste of time. Then, number 12 lover made me come on the third stroke inside. So I married him. 23 years later, he can still make me come on that third stroke. He's got a magic dick. And to think, I thought I was frigid! Turns out many guys do not know how to do it. Well, eleven out of twelve in my limited experience.
BTW: My first lover and I are still good friends. And so his is wife, my ex-best friend. We aren't best friends, but I love them both very much. They have two great kids and he fits with her, because she swears he's her best.
Different strokes for different folks!
reinaRT: For those who did it in a vehicle, it's interesting they remember that too.
ReplyDeleteMad: Good to hear he was enormous and a tender lover.
Alujna: Not that we're counting, but you may be No. 4. LOL. I think -- but I'm not sure -- that True Blue is at least 20. But our little shows most people do it the first time in their teens. And, by the way, Alujna, now that you waited this long, I hope you make sure the first time is special.
Michelle: Interesting that No. 12 was the winner.
FD
Mine was a Jackaroo called Bruce, over a bunch of haybales in the back of a ute!
ReplyDeleteI was an art student, he was too, but much older than me, an artist. This post made me think about it more deeply, but it was too long to post here ..posted on my blog. It was fantastic, I was lucky and always grateful to him for my first time. x
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