Genderless Baby

You may have heard about the Canadian couple who sent out birth announcements on the arrival of their baby but said they weren't revealing the sex of the baby at the present time. This resulted in the four-month old baby to be called the genderless baby and provoked a storm of controversy.

Well, now the mother of the baby has written a letter to a newspaper explaining their decision. They have two other kids and one of them is a five year old who likes "bright colors (especially pink) and lots of fabric (especially dresses). And he wanted to grow his hair.'' Meanwhile, the boy got pressure from his peer group to "act more like a boy.'' But she said the boy remained committed to his own style.

So when she became pregnant, the boy began asking questions about how the baby would be treated if the baby would like to wear pink one day (assuming the baby is a boy).

So they decided not to reveal the gender until the baby decides what gender the baby is. "Some day soon, Storm will have something to say about it, so in the meantime, I'm just listening carefully,'' the mother said.

There's also the issue of men who like to wear women's clothes but don't consider themselves women. Sex can be so very complicated.

I still don't agree with the decision, but at least I can understand the reasoning now. It is true that kids who have the genitals of one sex but in their minds are the opposite sex can have a difficult time growing up. But I don't think this is the way to deal with it, especially if the baby turns out to be the same gender as the genitals and it turns out to be no issue at all.

What do you think?

FD

Bikinis

I saw a note recently that this is the 65th anniversary year of the bikini. I guess before that, women only wore one piece suits at the beach. How times change.

The founder of the two piece suit called it a bikini because America conducted its first nuclear tests near the Bikini Islands and he thought the new suit "would cause a similar explosion.''

I find it interesting that while walking the beach, it seems most women under 40 wear bikinis and many of those over 40 prefer the one piece suit.

I've also seen two very pregnant women wearing bikinis recently -- or at least bikinis tops, one of them wore short shorts. I thought it was nice they were comfortable enough to wear them when they appeared to be due in a few weeks.

So I thought it was be interesting to ask our female readers if they like to wear bikinis.

FD

Staying

I'm fortunate to get so many interesting comments on my posts and I wanted to highlight one I got on my last "Stay or Leave'' post about how politicians' wives react when they get caught cheating and especially when they have a baby with the other woman.

Doll wrote the following, "My mother adopted my father's love child. They are going to celebrate their golden wedding in July and my sister is the joy of both their lives. There were a couple of hard years for my mother as she looked judgmental people in the eye and then it became a non issue. She felt she had far too much investment in the relationship to walk away from it. Certainly that is worth thinking about as she has not spent the latter years of her life as a single woman on reduced income but as part of a couple in very comfortable circumstances.''

Her decision reminds me of the late Ann Landers, who used to write, "Are you better off with him or without him?''

Doll's mother decided she was better off with him. Doll didn't write how her life was impacted by all this, but her mother kept the family together. Too bad Doll doesn't seem to have a blog.

Don't know how many women could have done the same thing,but it worked out for her.

Your thoughts?

FD

Stay or Leave

I find it interesting how politicians wives' react when their husbands are caught cheating on them.

For example, Hillary stayed and I think Elliott Spitzer's wife did too. John Edwards late wife left and so did Maria Shriver, the wife of Arnold Schwarzenegger, although why she married him in the first place, much less stayed 25 years, still baffles me.

Anyway, both Edwards and Arnold had babies with their mistresses.

So I thought the topic would be worth discussing. What would you do? What do you think of what they did? And is the husband having a baby with his mistress more of a deal breaker?

Your thoughts?

FD

Naked Resorts

The Wall St. Journal had a front page story last week on another problem with our economy -- naked resorts or colonies or camps. The staid Wall St. Journal is getting a bit more racy now that Rupert Murdoch is running it. Who knew there was a problem?

Turns out young people aren't flocking to them because the older crowd dominates and the younger ones feel like it is a retirement place. And some of the older types aren't welcoming because they feel the younger ones are too raucous.

Surprised the older types wouldn't welcome the young people. I know nudists say they like the freedom of not wearing clothes. I thought the point of looking at young naked chicks but then maybe I don't understand the nudist mindset.

So I thought I'd ask. Have any of you visited one of these places? Have you thought about it and just haven't done it. Or do you have no interest?

Your thoughts