The Wall St. Journal had a story today about schools being concerned about prom dresses being too revealing.
Here's the link:
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052702303816504577309532960793266.html
For those of you who have daughters going to proms, has this been an issue. And was it when you were going to the prom.
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Virtue
1 hour ago
When I was in high school, the dress code during the day applied to events. It surprises me that other schools don't have the same policy.
ReplyDeletePersonally, no matter what the schools policy is, I won't let my girls out of the house dressed immodestly.
I can understand you not letting them leave the house unless they are dressed modestly. How are they with this police and howw do you define modest dress?
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I homeschool so school policy does not affect us at all. My rules? Not cut outs, no deep plunging necklines. A little cleavage is ok. Bare shoulders are ok. Not too short and no leg baring slits. I want my girls to look classy not like a $2 whore.
DeleteAs non-american I must say that this seems ludicrous. :D I don't recall we having any dress code at high school level and I remember (drunk) students dressing up as used tampons and "nude" modeles on masquerade days. Only restriction was that were weren't allowed to advertise that school parties were held by our students' union due underage drinking etc. lol But yea, maybe smaller countries have smaller problems.
ReplyDeleteDo you mind sharing what country you live in? In the US, drunk students dressing up as used tampons would be frowned upon in most places, I think.
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My daughter will be going this year. No matter what the school policy is, her Father and I will be setting the limits first! I have seen some very poor dress choices.
ReplyDeleteThe trend seems to be having open sides into the back and long open areas down the backs as well. Also plunging necklines.
I know my daughter can look stunning in a dress that is beautiful as well as age appropriate an classy.
Oh and shoes! We will not be doing the crazy high heels either. They have changed quite a bit over the last few years.
Just hope we don't have to fight about it too long! She can be stubborn, but if she wants to go, we all need to agree.
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Let us know if you find a dress that you can all agree on without much of a fight. And why are you not crazy about high heels?
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I am extremely lucky, Mollie is more conservative than I am when it comes to what she wears. As she says, 'I'm not going looking like a slut!' What more beautiful words can a mother hear?
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PK: I think you can take credit for raising such a wonderful, level-headed daughter.
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When I was in high school we had a dance that was LITERALLY an excuse for the girls to dress like.. well you can fill in the blank, lol. I remember one year one girl came dressed in Bubble Wrap. Nothing underneath. A bunch of layers so you couldn't see anything, but still... a little over the top if you ask me. If I remember correctly, she did get asked to leave.
ReplyDeleteBubble Wrap? I would have liked to have seen that even if there was nothing to see. Not surprised she was asked to leave.
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I used to be more strict about what my daughters wore and now I've relaxed a lot. I only have one daughter that is below legal age and for the most part, and she looks great in most any dress, but she doesn't like the dresses with plunging necklines, thank goodness. She usually likes strapless dresses, which I've decided is okay.
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Kitty
Kitty: The older kids usually complain that couples allow their younger kids to do things they weren't allowed to do. LOL. But nice she doesn't want dresses with plunging necklines.
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Heels - We are ok with 3 in heel or lower, but some of the heels the kids wear even to Homecoming or Winter Formal dance are crazy 5 inch heels! Half of the girls can't even walk in them and end up barefoot 20 minutes into the dance.
ReplyDeleteMy daughter is heavily into cheerleading and tumbling, so I'd rather her ankles get a bit more support. We've been through two braces just this year.
I can understand what you mean about the 5 inch heels. And not uncommon to see girls dancng barefoot. In big cities, you often see women riding the subway in sneakers and then switching to heels at work. But have to admit most women look good in three inch heels.
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I'm edgy with fashion but in a classy work appropriate way;so it's not a surprise that my daughter (and niece that lives with us) get "creative" too. I think it's more about talking about choices, learning how to make good ones and having open discussions than making hard fast rules and getting engaged in power struggles. usually by the time we leave a store they end up agreeing with me without even realizing it . Prom should be fun and as long as it's somewhat tasteful kids should be able to express themselves this is an age old argument.
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Laurie
Laurie: Yes, good to avoid power struggles.
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Thankfully those days are behind me! My daughter was pretty modest compared to some that are showing so much skin these days.
ReplyDeleteI was lucky.. and am still lucky! I don't envy parents who have to deal with this problem.
Nancy: Maybe you can take credit for being a good mom to her.
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