Here's an article on the importance of empathy in a marriage.:
Here's the link:
http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/empathy-secret-sauce-happy-marriage-044200327.html
I will look forward to hearing your thoughts.
FD
Virtue
1 hour ago
I think it makes perfect sense and connects to your last post!!! A couple that tries to hear and feel for each other= success! Mind you no one is perfect---- so allowing for mistakes is needed!
ReplyDeleteMinelle
Yes, I should have mentioned it connected to my last post.
DeleteFD
I think empathy is essential to any good relationship. I wonder however, if it can really be developed.
ReplyDeleteI've been begging for empathy in my marriage but it doesn't seem to be available..although he says he adores and loves me.
Interesting topic~
I would think it could be developed if a couple decides to put a lot of effort into it.
DeleteFD
I agree that it makes sense. I strive to always catch the underlying emotional message, but it's difficult sometimes for my literal-wired brain to not take what is said at face value and instead hear the unspoken true complaint. Mrs. AP and I have worked on this together; we each try to tell each other exactly how we feel and why we think we feel it instead of dancing around the issues with complaints and criticisms. When we can do that together, we work better.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the article. I may hold on to it for reference. Just in case.
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Mr. AP
Good idea not to dance around the issue and to tell each other exactly how you feel.
DeleteFD
Oh, boy do I know a lot of people that need to read this article. I posted it on facebook. It's sad that spouse's don't take the time to learn the body language/signals from their loved one. More marriages would last if people did this one simple thing.
ReplyDeleteNo one wants to communicate in this day and age of communication.
R and I will be celebrating 25 years of marriage on Wednesday. But yes, it took me 22 of those years before I told him I needed him to spank me. At least I finally told him. He sure has taken to it.
heather1
Congrats on 25 years of marriage and you probably wish you would have told him earlier but nice he has taken to it.
DeleteI wonder if younger women with access to the Internet are more likely to tell their husbands what they want from the start.
FD
It's kind of sad that this is something people have to be told, I think. "Communicate honestly with your nearest and dearest, and you will both be happier for it."
ReplyDeleteReally?
It's true, but.. seems so obvious, to me. Clearly it's not to everyone. Thanks for sharing. :)
Yes, it seems obvious but it can still be difficult to do.
DeleteFD