Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Separate Bedrooms?

I was surprised by this statistic that one in four couples sleep in separate bedrooms? Here's the link:

http://yahoo.match.com/cp.aspx?cpp=/cppp/yahoo/article.html&articleid=12529&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=1364544

Do any of you sleep in separate bedrooms?

FD

42 comments:

  1. Always together! I knew a couple that had separate bedrooms. They had a very dysfunctional relationship. Not sure why they are still together. They are both unhappy.

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    1. Sometimes two unhappy people sometimes learn to co-exist or being unhappy becomes their norm.

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    2. People stay together when they are unhappy for all sorts of reasons. Usually money, or children or both. You can easily learn to come to terms with that.

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    3. Even if they learn to come to terms with that, it isn't always easy to deal with being unhappy.

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  2. R and I did sleep in separate bedrooms for a while but not because of problems in our relationship. R snores very loudly - shake the walls loud and I was not getting any sleep. After months of not getting more than a couple of hours sleep I had to move to a different room or I was going to lose my job.

    R has since gotten a sleep study and now where's a C-pap machine at night. Oh, the joy of silence and sharing a bed once again. But of course, now R says I snore. LOL

    heather1

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    1. Good to hear the machine stopped his snoring. I guess he didn't notice you snoring when he was. LOL.

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  3. Absolutely always together, have to entangle legs and arms every morning. Lisa tends to go to Christmas markets in the UK or Germany, with our daughter, once a year. Those nights I join the ranks of the sleepless.

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    1. Untangling your legs and arms every morning must be so nice.

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  4. Homer: Okay, why do you think your mother and I sleep in the same bed?

    Bart: Because we're poor?

    Homer: Exactly

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    1. Thanks for sharing that. It's pretty funny.

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  5. Nope, we're together and staying that way. Thankfully we nether snore. We laugh that in the winter we could sleep in a single bed. We like to cuddle in cooler weather. During this hot weather I want to know he's there, but there is not as much cuddling.

    Hugs,
    PK

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    1. PK: Why don't you turn up the AC and then you can snuggle in the hot weather?

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  6. When I had a husband we slept on the same bed even when we were mad at each other...separate beds, separate rooms, seems like we are going back to the 40's and 50's!

    Hugs
    Aluv

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    1. Nice that you slept in the same bed even when you were mad at each other. Hope that wasn't too often.

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  7. When I was married we slept in separate beds for the reason Heather1 said, he snored very loudly. A person has to sleep. And since he worked nights the first 15 years of our marriage, I was accustomed to sleeping alone.

    Now, when Master sleeps over, I still sleep in a separate bed, because that's how it's been for me for most of my life. And I have to do whatever gives me the best chance of actually sleeping, since I have to get up early for work in the morning.

    I also have to run a fan at night to drown out any noise at all, cars going by, neighbors closing their doors, those annoying car beeps after people park outside, etc. Any sound at all wakes me up.

    Master doesn't seem to mind. He doesn't touch me or want to cuddle, so me being in another room doesn't make any difference to him.

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    1. Surprised that your Master doesn't seem to mind.

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  8. I was really surprised at those statistics FD.

    Nope same room for us.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. I was surprised, too, but there seems to be a lot of factors involved.

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  9. There have been times we've slept in separate bedrooms. My snoring and him waking up at 4:00 it made sense.

    Now that he doesn't have to get up any more, we're back in the same bed.

    Right now, I'm watching Today and they are going to do a segment on married couples in separate beds.

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    1. I googled the Today segment and it says couples can sleep better in separate beds. And still enjoy sex.

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  10. We do, and I know some people would assume our relationship must suck. Actually the 1-2 years we've done this, we've gotten along better than the other 10 years of being together AND have more sex. We both get more sleep this way, which leads to us overall being happier, healthier people, and the few times we've napped together have been special instead of a chore.

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    1. It makes sense that if you gotten along better that you would have more sex.

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  11. Always the same bed unless the kids were sick than I slept with them, or they slept with us.
    There were times when he worked odd shifts then we were also not in bed together!
    Minelle

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    1. Sounds like the same bed works for you.

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  12. Florida Dom
    For the most part Master and I sleep in the same bed, same room. There have been occasions where one of us have left the bedroom and slept elsewhere due to snoring or an inability to sleep and was tossing and turning or just wanted to stretch out and have silence. I am not worried when Master exits the bedroom nor is he upset when I do. Sleep is incredibly important and when we have a good nights sleep we are happier people. I spent from birth until the age of 34 sleeping with only myself and the same for Master (give or take a year) so sharing a bed sometimes is not comfortable.

    When we sleep separately it does not mean we love each other less, in many ways it is because we love each other that we give space to sleep.

    ~a

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    1. Good point that you love each other so you give each other space to sleep.

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  13. We always sleep together, that was one thing Musicman has insisted on since the very beginning. I'm glad he did, cause I wouldn't want it any other way.

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    1. It's nice that sleeping together has worked out so well for you.

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  14. Mrs. AP and I have always been in the same bed together. When our Triad was together (the first year or so) all 3 of us slept in the same bed. We started using two top sheets (one for each half of the bed) to combat the stolen sheet issue.

    Now I can't fall asleep easily unless Mrs. AP is next to me. Her presence soothes me.

    Stay SINful
    Mr. AP

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    1. It is nice that her presence soothes you.

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  15. Scott and I sleep together; no sleep issues such as snoring, hogging the covers, etc.
    My first husband and I slept together until he got a girlfriend. So, not only did we sleep in separate beds, we slept in seperate houses. Lol.

    Kiki

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    1. It's good you and Scott have no sleeping issues and that you have a sense of humor about your first husband.

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  16. We asleep in the same bed. Sometimes because of my allergies, I have to sleep upright so I will go and sleep on the recliner, or she can't sleep so she will go sleep in another room not to wake me. but other then that, my arm is around her, while we sleep ...

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    1. Nice that your arm is around her as you sleep.

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  17. We sleep together every single night. I don't sleep well without him next to me and he says the same about me:) My bed feels empty when he is not in it.

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    1. You obviously love him being in your bed.

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  18. my husband falls asleep on the couch a lot and then ends up sleeping there. It used to offend me, but I no longer take it personally...

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    1. Sounds good that you have come to terms with him falling asleep on the couch.

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  19. I make my baby sissy sleep in a crib in "her" nursery which is a small lockable room in the basement. She is tied down, has her chasity device and multiple diapers with plastic panties on.

    Goddess Gretchen

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    1. Sounds like you have a well trained baby sissy. Do you have a blog?

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  20. DH used to be an alcoholic, and would fall asleep drinking in the livingroom. Since he doesn't drink anymore, he has slept with me every single night. Thank God!

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    1. Good that he has stopped drinking and that he sleeps with you every single night.

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