In the Mood?

Do you sometimes find yourself not in the mood for sex?

The website everydayhealth.com recently listed 12 problems:
Stress
Depression
Low self-esteem
Alcohol or drug use
Lack of sleep
Medication
Erectile Dysfunction, which used to be called impotence before the drug companies found out how much money could be made selling pills so they gave it a different name.
Hormone Imbalance
Menopause
Health Conditions
Relationship Problems
Lack of Sleep

The one that caught my eye on the list is low self-esteem. The rest seemed logical. But the article says it is hard to feel sexy when your self-image is down or when you have an unhealthy body image.

Interesting.

Your thoughts?

FD

Sex Slave

Did that title get you to click on my blog?

Well, that was a sneaky way to get attention. This blog isn't really about being a sex slave. It is about the empty next syndrome.

The sex slave bit was a reference to Finding Sara's blog (findingsara.wordpress.com) in which she was lamenting the onset of the empty nest syndrome and wondering what she would do and her husband jokingly (I think jokingly) said, "You can be my sex slave.''

Anyway, I commented that I thought she would enjoy the empty nest years and the privacy that comes with them. And the fact that it would likely lead to the grandchildren years.

So I thought I'd ask bloggers their thoughts on the empty nest syndrome. Have you experienced them yet? Are you looking forward to them? Or not?

Of course, mothers never stop being mothers. I was home for a visit last week and I could only drag my 92-year-old mother out to a restaurant once. She insisted on cooking some of my favorite meals andsome of my favorite desserts when I should have been cooking for her. And I put on about five pounds. Once a mother, always a mother.

FD

Wedding Cake Tradition

What do you think of the tradition of the bride and groom smashing wedding cake in each other's faces at the reception.

I'm not a fan of the idea even though it seems to be popular but I find it interesting that there is a theory that there is a submissive quality to it.

According to the book "Curious Customs'' via Dear Abby, it starts with the groom helping the bride's hand, a symbolic demonstration of male control. She accepts this gesture and, as a further proof of her submissiveness, performs the second step of the ritual, offering him the first bite of cake, the gustatory equivalent of her body, which he will have the right to "partake of''' later.

In the third step, the master-servant relationship is temporarily upset, as the bride mischievously pushes the cake into her new husband's face. Significantly, this act of revolt is performed in a childish fashion, and the groom is able to endure it without losing face because it ironically demonstrates his superiority: His bride is an imp needing supervision.''

The bride then wipes the goo apologetically from his face. This brings the play back to the beginning as she is once again obedient to his wiser judgment.

I doubt most couples who smash the cake see it as a submissive act but I thought it was an interesting theory.

Your thoughts?

FD

SlutWalk

So what did you do on your vacation?

I went to a SlutWalk.

In case you've never heard of a SlutWalk, you can google the term. They walks started April 3 in Toronto after a police officer in Toronto said at a college forum, "Women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized.''

It wasn't long before the first SlutWalk was organized to protest the idea that how women dress should be a factor in being raped. They've now gone world wide.

I was visiting relatives on vacation when I saw that a SlutWalk was being held the next day downtown. We were down there visiting a museum so we checked out the walk. Most of the women weren't dressed provacatively, but they had a clever signs and T shirts.

I wish I could remember them all, but some T-shits had the word MINE written on top with an arrow pointed down. Anther said My skirt is not a password to my vagina. Another said rape is caused by a) slutty clothing, b) global warming, c) rapists. The last word was checked.

Another said I am a slut, Don't rape me.

And another T-shirt had several things that mean NO, including "maybe'' and there were signs about consent.

I thought it was a positive sign that young women were protesting being victimized.

Of course, the word SlutWalk is designed to designed to draw attention. One organizer told the local paper that if they called it Women Against Rape, it wouldn't draw as much attention.

Well, they are certainly getting attention. In just three months, there are SlutWalks being held in cities around the world.

Your thoughts?

FD

Economic problems?

You've probably heard we have economic problems these days.

Yet the dress Marilyn Monroe wore when she stood on the subway gate and it blew it up just sold for $4.6 million and $5.5 million with fees. Anybody who spends that much money for that dress obviously has too much money.

For those of you too young to remember the photo, just google it. The crazy thing is that by today's standards, it looks pretty tame. You can barely see a glimpse of her panties. But it was considered very sexy at the time and apparently Joe DiMaggio, who was married to her then, was upset about the scene from the movie, "The Seven-Year Itch.''

Interesting that there is no athlete today like Joe DiMaggio and no actress like Marilyn. Not sure why but can you imagine a song today with the line, "Where have you gone Derek Jeter?'' And Joe was upset about the song until it was explained to him that the line celebrated his iconic status.

Anyway, I wonder what the person who bought that dress is going to do with it?

FD

Dad

I have posted lately about getting spanking paddles for the man in your life in Father's Day. But now that the day is here, I want to get serious.

I want to wish everybody happy Father's Day. And add a short tribute to my father. He was a wonderful dad. He wasn't the type who said "I love you,'' but he showed his love. So much so that my younger sisters (I was the cherished only son) said I was spoiled and referred to me as "The Prince.'' Hey, it's not bad to be the prince.

But my dad had one shortcoming. Like some men, he didn't like to go to see the doctor and so when he got prostate cancer, it wasn't diagnosed in time and he died of an illness that can be survived if diagnosed early enough. He was 77 so he still lived a good life but we could have had more time together.

He died at home after being in a coma like state and when I got home from out of town, he wasn't able to acknowledge me, but he kind of stirred and died that afternoon. It was like he felt he could go now that I was there. Maybe it was just a coincidence. but it chokes me up just writing about it.

As a result, I go for annual checkups and even had a biopsy a couple of years ago (it actually felt good with all that lube, LOL) and it was negative.

So my message to all the men reading this is to get annual checkups. They can cure many things if they are discovered early enough. And eat more fish and less red meat and drink less. Remember two drinks a day should be the max.

And to the women reading this, if the man in your life doesn't go for annual physicals feel free to suggest to him (or even nag him) to read this post. He is risking spending time with you and the kids and grandkids if he doesn't see the doctor.

Well, enough of my lecturing. And, Dad, I still miss you even though you've been gone for over two decades.

FD

Pictures

One of the most famous pictures in the history of photography was taken on Aug. 11, 1945 of a sailor kissing a nurse in Times Square at the end of WW II. It was published in Life Magazine and immediately became an iconic photo.

I am sure many of you know what I am talking about and have that photo embedded in your mind. If you don't, just google it.

What makes me brings this up is that the faces of the two people were not easy to see and while many people have claimed to be the ones in photo, their identity is still a matter of dispute.

Flash forward to this week when another iconic photo was taken in Vancouver of what appears to be a couple making out on the street in the middle of a riot after the 7th game of the Stanley Cup Finals. In no time, with the help of the Internet, the two people in the photo were identified and interviewed.

And the photo wasn't what it seemed. It was not a moment of passion. The woman had been knocked to the ground by a police shield and was crying and the guy she was dating was consoling her and gave her a kiss just as the photographer snapped the photo.

Amazing that in this era of video, a photograph can still capture a lot of attention.

FD

Rally Ball

Have you ever heard of Rally Ball?

I hadn't until I was at the store today getting a new grip for my tennis racket and I spotted these Rally Ball paddles.

I just blogged about ping pong paddles, but these rally ball paddles were much bigger. Perfect for the spanko on Father's Day. Your cover story is that you are taking up rally ball. LOL.

FD

Father's Day

I love Father's Day. Not because I want anything but because I am not expected to do anything.

So all you spankos out there, what do you get the man in your life on Father's Day?

Well, I have just the thing for you. Do you know you can buy ping pong or table tennis paddles with the logo on your favorite NFL team on them?

That's the kind of paddle you can leave around the house and say it is just to recognize his favorite team. The non spankos in your life would never guess what it is really used for.

Now how can you beat that? (pun intended)!!!!!!

FD

Inspiration

This is a bit different from my usual posts but I direct you to a new blog.

http://alicepyne.blogspot.com/

It is about a 15-year-old girl dying of cancer. Only three posts but such a positive attitude in the face of tragedy.

She's not asking for money or pity but just that you sign up on the bone marrow list and that you click to a link to say hello to other sick kids.

You might want to mention it on your blogs.

FD

Circumcision

For a long time, the majority of male babies in the U.S. have been routinely been circumcised. Of course, Jewish men have always been circumcised, but at some point it became more common in the general population.

Now there is a controversy about the procedure, some saying that there is no medical for it while some studies have shown it reduces the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases and the possibility of passing on HIV to their women partners. Now parents have to decide whether they want a procedure that used to be routine.

Meanwhile, the city of San Francisco is going to put a measure on the ballot banning the practice.

So I thought I'd ask the readers if they have male children whether or not they had them circumcised or whether they've given any thought of what they will do if they have male children.

And do our female readers think there is any difference in having sex with a circumcised male or an uncircumcised male and whether you have a preference.

FD

Too thin?

If you go on the Internet, you will see pictures of LeAnn Rimes in a bikini on her honeymoon defending herself from fans who tell her she is too thin.

One said on Twitter, "Whoa, you're scary skinny! Sorry don't mean to offend but that's a lot of bones showing through skin.''

She replied those were abs not bones and she tweeted she ate Boston Dog's sliders and french fries at the airport. I guess she was trying to make the point she eats junk food.

But if you look at the pictures, she looks like she needs a few good meals.

If you are a regular reader, you know I think these skinny celebs and models can send a terrible message to young girls growing up who think they need be so thin that it is unhealthy. One of my favorite sayings is that Real Women have Curves. I love curvy women and think women should embrace their curves. If you look at the Reuben's paintings, you know that thin wasn't always in.

Anyway, if you google the Rimes' pictures, I will be curious to hear your thoughts.

FD