I've written before on the bad message sent to women when models and movie stars are too thin. I actually prefer curvy women.
Anyway, here is a study of how body images have changed over the last 100 years and how models today are 23 per cent different than average women. I think this makes many women feel negative thoughts about their bodies. I hope our bloggers think positive thoughts about their bodies and that the men in their relationships give them positive feedback.
Here's the link:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/02/05/perfect-body-change-beauty-ideals_n_4733378.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular
Your thoughts!!!!
FD
Virtue
1 hour ago
In my opinion, I think the issues starts at adolescence. Sexy jock only wants the "banging hot" cheerleader. Though, not all cheerleaders would be consider "banging hot". The precedent for the proper body for both men and women starts at an early age. By the time adulthood arrives, it is hard to break the thought process.
ReplyDeleteIf a blogger has read my blog, he/she would know my Dom hates my self image issues. He enjoys my body, curves, extra "fat", and all. It's hard for me to understand because of what will drilled into me as an adolescence. Until He started breaking me of it, the possibilities of a great time together were hindered.
When body image becomes prevalent, peers are just too immature to really embrace that beauty comes from within.
Recently, a childhood friend confessed he had the hugest crush on me. My curves drove him crazy. His days were the best when I had to wear my cheerleader outfit. It drove him crazy for the three years we were in high school. He just couldn't get himself to admit it to me, afraid I would reject him because though he was part of the "in" crowd, he was not a jock.
As adults, women are so catty with each other that believing a male is difficult. As models are shown at size 0, it's hard not to compare and realize it's not the real world.
Sorry, I think I rambled.
You didn't ramble at all. You provided a lot of insight and I am glad you shared. How sad the guy who had a crush on you wouldn't tell you because he was afraid you would reject him. And how nice your Dom enjoys your curvy body. And what a shame that women tend to be catty with each other. What you said really rings true.
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Not much time here FD so I will be brief. I have always been on the curvy side and that self image started in primarv school with two people (I shouldn't name them here but their names and faces are crystal clear to me even now.)
ReplyDeleteI look back on pictures of myself as a younger woman and frankly wish I knew I was that beautiful when I WAS that age...ah the possiblities!
Now I am curvy. I do love how those curves move with me in all the right ways. Sir says more times than can count 'You have a gorgeous little body"...The little girl inside me doesn't get it though. She is still being met at the school gate with the taunts of 'here comes fatty' by the primary school bullies who convinced me I was fat. (i see the pictures now of the 8 yr old and no she wasn't overweight).
We are our own worst enemies.
True but what is good body image has changed over the years.
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You are so fortunate that you Sir keeps telling you that you have a gorgeous little body. And I wish you could banish those primary school bullies from your memory.
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I think everybody should look at more retro-erotica as a corrective to modern trends...
ReplyDeleteGood point.
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I have battled the fat demons all my life. True women are especially catty but some men buy into the underweight = sexy mindset. My ex divorced me a few months after our daughter was born because I was too fat. The sad thing is I believed him. I felt worthless for years. I married a wonderful man a few years later who is always telling me that I'm beautiful. I never truly believed him until one day I realized that I have power over my feelings. I can choose to believe a cruel man or I can choose to believe a loving man. I chose to put my faith in my loving and supportive husband. I'm not saying it's easy to keep those old feelings at bay, but everyday I look in the mirror, I try to see myself through his eyes. When I do this I do feel better about myself.
ReplyDeleteGood to hear that you now have a loving and supportive husband and that you try to keep those old feelings at bay. Great when you look in the mirror you try to see yourself through his eyes and feel better about yourself. It's great that he is always telling you that you are beautiful. Shame about your ex making you feel worthless for years. And keep those old demons at bay and tell yourself u are beautiful and curvy. Good luck. Your story is what I hate the fashion industry keeps using those skinny models who look like they need a good meal.
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I love Diane's comment. She seems to have found a wonderful man who understands what real beauty is. We all have power over our feelings, but it's far more difficult for some people who've been put down by a society whose core values are truly misplaced.
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