Thursday, February 27, 2014

Choosing a life partner

For all of our single bloggers, here's some good advice on finding a life partner and talking about the mistakes that so many people make. Mainly not expanding the pool of candidates and being pressured to make a choice between 25 to 35. Says it's better to be single at 37 looking for the right person than being 35 in a bad marriage. And women have the double whammy of dealing with the biological clock although the author says it is better to adopt later in life than to get married just to have kids.


For those of us in the D/s lifestyle, the pool is even smaller. Here's the link and then there's a part two.


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/wait-but-why/how-to-pick-your-life-partner_b_4848898.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular


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28 comments:

  1. Interesting article. Too much pressure doesn't help with good decisions,

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  2. That is a good point. Some singles feel pressure to marry by a certain age.

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  3. I can't tell you how many women I know that were married around 20 and had kids before 21. These women are from where I currently live, not where I grew up, and for them to hear that I was with my Master for 8 years before we married blows them away. Lol

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    1. I am sure you have no regrets that you waited. Of course, you were fortunate to find each other since the pool of Masters and subs tends not to be a large one. But I think D/s relationships tend to very good ones.

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    2. Oh we were not D/s this whole time. We are only six months into all of this but lucky we.

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  4. This is interesting. I never really thought about getting married, but my wife found me when I was young. She was a few years older and she knew what she wanted and was willing to wait till she found it. We were together about 9 months before we were engaged.

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    1. You are both very fortunate she waited until she found what she wanted. And you are what she wanted. She is obviously very pleased the way you serve her and are caged for her and you obviously want to serve her. You have a wonderful relationship.

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    2. I think so, Sir, although a lot of people would not understand my being her maid.

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    3. They just don't understand the sissy lifestyle. If you read the blogs, there are a lot of sissy men who are maids to their wives. How did you meet her? Had you dated other women before you met? Do you know any other sissies?

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    4. I met her when I was temp in the law office she works in. I was typing and answering the phone there. I could barely look her in the eye. I thought she as so lovely. She was amused of how afraid of her and shy I was. I had been on some dates but they never were very serious. Girls always treated me like a friend. I don't they say me as much of a male.

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    5. So how did your relationship start? Did she ask you out on the first date?. And what was that first date like? Do she tell you right from the first day what your relationship would be like or did she wait a few dates?

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    6. I could never have asked her out. The first date was hen she bought me lunch. She never said how things would be, she just was in charge from the start if that makes any sense. She even gave me an over the knee spanking on our third date when she invited me to her house for dinner. I probably sounds strange, Sir.

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    7. I know I'm jumping in here, again, but...

      Danni, I think Miss Emily is lucky to have you and you her. Maybe the way you live is unorthodox but I think it is all romantic. Especially when you talk about first meeting her. I giggled when I read she spanked you on your third date. I bet it makes you smile looking back... I would :)

      *walks off wondering about what happened on the forth date ;)

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    8. Thank you, Misty. I suppose we have a lot in common. :). I can clearly remember the pain and humiliation I felt from that first spanking and the corner time after. But i also recall the hug she gave me after. That was the first time she told me I was good girl.My head was swimming then. The next date was the first time I served her orally.

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    9. :) I could see why your head would be spinning!

      Thanks for sharing this part of your lives. It has inspired me.

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    10. Misty, feel free to jump in at any time. Your insights are interesting.

      Danni, it doesn't sound strange that you were spanked on the third date. She obviously saw you were a sissy and wanted to establish her control. Did she make you pull down your pants for a bare ass spanking that first time? And when you served her orally the first time, were you allowed to cum? If not when did she give you a cum and when did she first use the strapon on you and did you crave it right away or have to get used to it?

      And it was obviously exciting the first time she called you a good girl. Does she call you that often?

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    11. Yes I pulled down my pants for a bare spanking the first time, Sir. I had to stand in the corner like that. After she had two orgasms, she gave me a hand job and had me lick her fingers clean. The first time with a strapon was on on our wedding night. She used two, the second felt like it would split me. She had me begging for it. She calls me that sometimes. I really crave hearing "good girl."

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    12. How did it inspire you, Misty?

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    13. What does she call you sometimes? Good girl? Does she call you that very often? And were you begging for it even though it felt like it would split you? Do you now like that one? And did she lock you the first time your wedding night and what was your reaction?

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    14. I meant sometimes she says "good girl" and I wish i heard it more. it means I pleased her. Yes I was egging for it. She uses a bigger one usually now. She has me on my back. I was crying the first time. She told me my clit was so hard. She laughed. After I came she put the cage on.

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    15. Danni, I probably should have said that you inspire me.

      I think I should say that this lifestyle is new to my husband and I (in other words, we have a ways to go, lol), it's been hard to except that I am who I am yet at the same time I feel good to know who I am. It has also been hard to give him control of certain things.

      It is your dedication and trust that you give Miss Emily that inspires me, to be a better me. I'm also thinking that if you can except who you are then why can't I. I think it has to be harder for a man given how society makes us think we should be a certain way and kudos to you for being brave enough to be as you want... which is to be as She wants you to be.

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    16. Danni: I figure you are used to the cage by now but what was it like when she first put it on. Was it uncomfortable at first? And how did you feel about wearing the cage at first?

      And Misty, thanks for explaining how he inspired you and it's good to know that you now know who you are and you want this lifestyle. It's good you have given him control of certain things because it must make you feel more submissive.

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  5. I think I am one of the lucky singles... I was in an unhappy place the last 10 years of my marriage and was actually a much happier person being single. I am too old to worry about the biological clock.. but it would be nice to know you have someone to share special times with. I am in a better place today than I was as a wife though :)

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    1. It's nice that you are in a better place and are a much happier person than you were in the last 10 years of your marriage. Much better to be happy single and be unhappily married. But good luck in finding someone to share the special times with.

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  6. Sir: I t was uncomfortable and I was upset that she had wear it. I had masturbated often and Miss Emily many sissies have that problem. It was 8 weeks before I was allowed to cum the first time.

    Misty: Thank you that is kind. I was small and feminine and got picked on a lot. Maybe I just knew I needed to be controlled and protected.

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    1. Do you go eight weeks without cums very often now or was that just a first time to establish her control?. How often does she let you cum? And have you adjusted to being locked and not masturbating or is it difficult and you are still horny all the time?

      And sorry you were picked on. It's nice that you are now controlled and protected.

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  7. I rarely an allowed to cum more than once every 10 weeks or so. I still think about masturbating but it is a little easier, Sir. And thank you. It's funny now that my protector teases and humiliates me. :)

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