I found the following letter in Dear Abby:
"My wife of 25 years, in an effort to get me to stop smoking, refuses to have sex until I quit. It's been more than a year since we made love. I plan to quit smoking, but not this way. I don't want to think of sex as her weapon, but it is. Any advice on how to cope with my unwinnable battle?''
I think using sex as a weapon is bad enough, but after a year, I don't think she's using it as a weapon. I think she doesn't want to have sex with him.
Anyway, I curious about what you think about using sex as a weapon generally and what this woman is doing as a specific example.
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