The countdown is on

The New Year will be here in about 40 1-2 hours.

But I have a bigger countdown: In about 30 hours, my girl arrives to ring in the new year with me and celebrate a belated Christmas. The stockings are hung by the chimney with care and you know the rest but I would like to add a verse about her legs being spread and his wrists being cuffed and her nipples pinned even though it's not a good rhyme. But good fun.

Anyway, I've also given her the panty assignments when she is here -- not that she will spend a lot of time wearing them. One of our rituals is I pick out what panties she wears each day so she thinks of her submission when she puts them on. But she goes without them while we are in the house together.

And a happy new year to you and yours. It will be memorable for us because it will be our first New Year's Eve together.

FD

Happy holidays

Hope you are having a wonderful holiday season. I spent Christmas with daughters and grandkids and we had a good time. The youngest grandson was four months old on Christmas day and is so cuddly and cute and I love holding him. We had his christening a month ago so was my second visit in as many months. On that visit, my daughter snapped a picture of me holding him in the rocking chair and we both fell asleep.

And on New Year's Eve, my good girl will arrive for a five night visit until the following Sunday. How nice to be ringing in the new year with her. Christmas Eve was our two year nine month anniversary of when she first started to submit to me and become mine. We haven't seen each other since September so we are thrilled we are going to be together again. Going to bed and waking up in her arms will be so nice again to say nothing of all the things I have planned.

And hope you are also enjoying the holiday season.

FD

How did pussy shaving start?

Here's an interesting clip of women talking about how pussy shaving went from being a kink to being mainstream and how many women now think having a full bush is gross.

Here's the clip:

http://live.huffingtonpost.com/r/archive/segment/down-there-grooming-questions-answered/528bf5ec78c90a0800000902

The theory is that it began with people watching porn on their VCRs at home.

And many men seem to like it shaved so they don't get hair in their mouths although I think there is an age factor here with older women tending not to shave. I was talking to one of my tennis buddies today who is in 70s and into online dating (having his third date tonight with a woman in her 60s and is curious if she is ready to go back to his place after they have dinner) and he likes it when women don't shave.

So why do you shave or not shave?

FD

Sex and the single girl

I found this blog on the N.Y. Times website and while it is written in a dense style, it makes some interesting points.
 
The main one is that college students assume their peers are having more sex than they actually are and that leads to them having more sex. It's called "pluralistic ignorance.''

To quote, "Plenty of college students think they don't have sex as much as other people do and aren't as comfortable with uncommitted sex as other people are, but generally don't wish to appear prudish, which strikes many as a social kiss of death.''

This leads to, "one or both sexual partners to act according to the perceived norm rather than to their own convictions.''

It also says, "Male and female comfort levels diverged sharply when the options moved from what people used to call "heavy petting' to oral sex and intercourse -- men were reasonably comfortable with everything, women weren't -- but the women surveyed mistakenly assumed that other women's preferences looked much more like the male preferences than their own. So, significantly, did the men. In other words, in our sexual culture, the male preference gets treated as normative even by women who don't share it, and whose own comfort levels with sex outside a committed relationship is actually substantially lower.''

It also says, "the risk of depression is much lower for women with stable relationships and a low number of overall sexual partners, a correlation which doesn't appear to anything like the same degree for men.''

Here's a link to the whole article:

http://douthat.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/12/17/sex-sociology-and-the-single-girl/?_r=0

I am interested in which women think about these comments if you are young or what you thought when you were young. Were you comfortable with uncommitted sex and did you engage in it because you thought it was expected?

I found it interesting that young people assumed other people were having more sex than they were  even if they weren't.

FD  

Online dating

I don't know if any of you have done online dating but I thought you might enjoy this NY Times story about a woman and her online experiences. The comments are also worth reading.

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/12/17/booming/how-i-found-love-and-companionship-online.html?src=rechp&_r=0

FD

PK's book has been published

I think that most of you who read my site also read PK's wonderful blog and know that she has published her first book.

Here's a link to it on Amazon:

http://www.amazon.com/Cassies-Space-PK-Corey-ebook/dp/B00H8BFZ9U/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1386746623&sr=8-1-fkmr0&keywords=Cassie%27s+place+Pk+Corey

In the interest of full disclosure, PK was a mentor who encouraged me to start blogging and helped set up by blog and we have met. She is a treasure in our community and I want to wish her the best and hope the book is a great success.

Her blog is elisnewbeginnings.blogspot.com

Congrats, PK

FD

Even a Master has a slow day

The local paper has a headline about a fisherman with the title, "Even a master has a slow day.''

I thought you might get a chuckle out of that. Sure the headline writer wasn't think what the people in this lifestyle think when they saw that headline.

FD

Illusions of the body

Here's an interesting series of nude photos, one in which the model is posed in a very sexy way and the other in which the model is posed in an unattractive way. The artist called it "Illusions of the body.''

It is interesting the same person can look so different  Pictures can be an illusion.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/12/06/gracie-hagen_n_4393887.html

FD

Surpise!! Men like to eyeball women's bodies

I had to smile at this scientific study showing men like to check out women's bodies. Did you need a study to figure that out. I figure most women already knew this. And do the women readers like to be checked out?

http://on.aol.com/video/what-do-men-really-see-when-they-look-at-women--518027911?hp=1&playlist=127155&icid=maing-grid7%7Chp-laptop%7Cdl3%7Csec1_lnk3%26pLid%3D411391

Oh, and no surprise, women tend to do it too.

FD 

A size 16 model

One of my pet gripes is the way the fashion industry usually features skinny models who look like they have an eating disorder and need to eat a good meal.

That's why I like these pictures of a size 16 model, Robyn Lawley, modeling bras and panties and saying she's normal and that women her size shouldn't be called plus size. She said the skinny women should be called minus size. The obsession with skinny models also sends a bad message to young women who are healthy but feel they should lose weight.

Since I think women should be curvy, it'd be a positive step if the fashion industry would feature more models who look the way most women look. Here's the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/17/robyn-lawley-lingerie_n_4292481.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular

I will be interested in your comments.

FD
  

Did you know Raquel Welch is 73?

Check her out in this gown and tell me if you can believe she is 73. She was born Sept. 5, 1940.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/17/raquel-welch-governors-awards_n_4292091.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular

FD

Did you know there's rare condition that causes some girls to be born without a vagina?

I never heard of this before but it turns out that one out of 4500 girls are born without a vagina.

The strange thing is that they look the same so they don't usually find out about it until they become teens and don't have periods. I can imagine it would be difficult to cope with this condition.

Here's the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/14/jacqui-beck-no-vagina-mrkh_n_4274401.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular

Have you heard of this condition?

FD 

Loud sex

I thought you would find this story pretty funny. A woman is having fun with her vibrator in her apartment and the neighbor complains and leaves a note on her door and then she leaves a reply. Here's the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/13/sex-note-chicago_n_4267760.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular

FD

Love Our Lurkers day

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Did you see this photo?

This photo snapped of a black guy falling asleep in the subway leaning against a Jewish man's shoulder has gotten a lot of attention. I thought I would share it with you.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/06/sleeping-stranger-subway-picture_n_4228826.html?ncid=webmail1

FD

Kissing

I thought you'd get a chuckle out of this story. A male actor said it's easier to kiss another male on screen because he doesn't have to be concerned about his wife being upset.

So the wife goes to the movie and sees the scene of him kissing a man and she said, "You've never kissed me like that.''

It doesn't say what his reply was but here's the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/01/downtown-abbey-gay-kiss_n_4191163.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular

FD 

Visiting my new grandson

This has been a special week for me. I've been visiting my two month old grandson for the first time.

The little tyke is only two months old and a darling baby but then maybe I'm prejudiced.

The first day he kind of fussed when I held him but since then he's often slept in my arms. One time in the rocking chair as I rocked him, I even dozed off too. He's only nine pounds and easily fits in the crook of my arm.

His little thumb is so small that he can't suck it so, he sucks his little fist. The doc said he has an oral fixation at this stage. I don't think I ever outgrew that. LOL.

Anyway, for those of you who are grandparents -- he is my third -- you know how much fun it is. You don't have any of the responsibilities of raising them. You just enjoy them. Reached a milestone today when he rolled over for the first time. My daughter said he was too young to do it as he twisted his hips but he finally managed to do it.

Very precious moments.

FD

Learning a lesson

I like to alert bloggers to new blogs and if you haven't seen this one I think you will enjoy it.
She talks about how she got too demanding in wanting an orgasm and her Sir taught her a good lesson. Here's the link:

http://sexuallysubmissivewoman.blogspot.com/2013/10/lesson-learned.html?showComment=1382792807635#c6982797602581032769

You might stop by and welcome her to our community. Her Sir seems to be training her to be a good submissive.

FD.

Holding her hand

A :LDR relationship can be difficult when you aren't there to be hands on.

But when my good girl was having a difficult time, she reached out to me to take her hand. She wrote what I thought was a very moving blog about it and I thought I'd share it with you.

http://pouredoutlett.blogspot.com/

I so like being there for her.

FD

Big boobs

Here's an article by a woman talking about the problems of having big boobs.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/literally-darling/tits-mcgee-growing-up-with-big-boobs_b_4098364.html?ref=topbar

Your thoughts? And would bloggers like to share what they think of their boobs? Are they just right or are you not happy with them?

FD

Sex in your 60s

Did you see that Miley Cyrus said she thinks people don't have sex after 40 and Suzanne Somers replied that she and her husband of 36 years still have sex "a couple of times a day.''

Good for them. Here's the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/10/09/suzanne-somers-sex-confession_n_4069486.html?ncid=webmail5

Your thoughts?

FD

Wearing high heels may not be good for a woman's orgasm

I found this article under the title of 12 shocking sex facts. I didn't find them shocking but some were interesting.

Especially the comment that certain high end shoe brands developed their high heeled shoes to approximate the arch in a woman's pelvis when she is having an orgasm.  It says the heels create a contraction in the pelvic floor, which is problematic because the pelvic floor then cannot contract further during orgasm. An orgasm  is usually like going from zero to 60. If you're already at 55 from wearing heels, you're not going to have a full experience.

I have no idea if this is true but found it interesting. I know some women like wearing high heels because they think they look sexy in them. But kind of ironic if they diminish orgasms.

http://healthland.time.com/2013/10/04/lets-talk-12-surprising-facts-about-sex-and-women/?iid=sl-main-mostpop2

There's the link. Also some other interesting comments like orgasms make women feel more creative. And that sitting in chairs can arouse women as long as they don't sit in them most of the day.

And that women have three erogenous zones, clit, G spot and opening of the cervix. It says some argue nipples should be in the list.  I would argue that , too. I think women like their nipples and boobs being stimulated.

It also says all women can achieve orgasm but not everybody knows how to use the machinery well. They also may have lovers who don't know how to give them satisfaction.

Anyway, I will be interested in your thoughts on women's sexual pleasure.

FD 

The last barrier

My good girl suggested this title for a blog post. She felt we passed a last barrier when we did anal play in her recent visit. And she said she loved it.

Although I had her use a butt plug in the past when we did phone sex, I had spent my time in our visits playing with her boobs and pussy and doing play things like spanking and bondage. And having her follow my rituals.

I decided it was time for me to try the back door and it was nice that she loved it. I will be doing that more in the future.

Don't know how many of you like that kind of play.

Another thing we love to do is shower together. And I have a walk in shower, which is easier to use for two than having both of us showering together in the bathtub and not having a lot of room.

We both love showering together and I don't know how popular that is. But there is a closeness to it that is very appealing and satisfying.

FD  

A quickie

My good girl called a while ago and had about 20 minutes before a friend was coming over for the evening. When she heard me say Hmmm, she knew what I was thinking. She just laughed knowing how insatiable I am. But she wouldn't have it any other way.

Just enough time for a quickie. Being on the clock made it more exciting. Had to give her a cum with enough time to clean up and put her Hitachi away and be ready for her friend.

Mission accomplished. Gave her a nice cum and by the time her friend was at the door we were just chatting.

 The face we faced a deadline and didn't want her friend to arrive when she was moaning in the throes of a cum added another dimension to it.

We made the most of a short period of time. Hope you enjoyed me sharing the experience.

FD

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Wrting about spanking

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Anniversary

It was 2 1/2 years ago today and she became my good girl and we've had a wonderful time together. In one sense, it seems like yesterday. In another, it seems like we've always been together. She's brought me more happiness than I can imagine. And I hope I've done the same for her.

But it was a bittersweet day because she had to return home today. After 10 days, it was so difficult to say goodbye. Whoever said parting is such sweet sorrow had it all wrong. There is nothing sweet about parting.

We had such a good time. Even the vanilla stuff like visiting the zoo and the beach was a treat, We went to good restaurants and also had lobster and steak at home. And the playtime was so good. She loves being submissive to me and loves our rituals.

I have to admit I enjoy putting the pins on your boobs when her hands are tied over her head. And a dessert of whipped cream on boobs is delicious.

And even just going to sleep and waking up in each other's arms.  And I have a new collection of panties to chose from when I decide which pair she wears each day.

Now we have to adjust to being apart again and count the days until we are together again.

FD

Spankings and panties

Just a quite update to let you know my good girl are having a wonderful time together.

And we discovered something interesting that I thought I'd pass on. She likes shorter but harder spankings. We found this out when time limited us to a shorter one so I made it harder and she said she liked it. Interesting.

And we added to our collection of panties. At an outlet mall, they have buy three packs of three and get one free so we now have a dozen more. I pick out her panties each day and she loves that ritual and now I have more choices.

But she wears the panties only when we leave the house. In fact, she doesn't get dressed when we are home together. Only wears a bathrobe so sometimes when I raise the temperature on the air conditioning, she takes that off too.

Unfortunately, she has to leave Tuesday. That is going to be a difficult day for the both of us. Hope you are all having as much fun as we are.

FD

She's coming (and will be cuming)

I have my good news to report. My good girl is arriving today for a 10-day visit. It's the first time she has visited me.  I've had to work on removing some of the clutter around the house but she says she loves the whole package, including my clutter.

We've spent 25 nights together and this will make it 35. When you are in an LDR, you cherish each one. We talk every morning when she gets up and I put her to bed every night, but it will be so much better to do it in her arms.

We haven't seen each other in over two months and we are both eager to see each other. She says I'm insatiable and I must confess she is right. And a two-month absence has made me more so.  I've already told her she won't be wearing panties here to make her more available. She already doesn't like wearing a bra so her body will be ready for my use. She has said I take what I want and I want a lot. We will start with plenty of spankings and go from there. I know some bloggers don't feel they don't get enough spankings so I make sure she can never say that. And spend must time in bed as I explore every inch of her sexy body to make her feel owned.

We will start with lobster and then steak her first two nights here and also hit some nice restaurants. And then I will be enjoying my favorite dessert -- nipples with whipped cream. After they've felt the sting of the pins, of course.

Hope all is well where you are. I have a big smile on my face.

FD

Body issues

I always like to alert the blogging community to new bloggers. And I found Mistress in the kitchen and pet to my Sir when she commented on my blog.

One of her first posts was on body issues and it was well done. I know many of you can relate to this.

Her's the link:

http://foodsexandbooze.blogspot.com/2013/09/self-worth-and-body-image.html

Want to suggest that you stop by and welcome her to our little community.

FD

Squirting

One of our bloggers, Renee Rose has written a good post on squirting or female ejaculation. I thought I would share it with you:

http://www.reneeroseromance.com/2013/09/do-you-squirt.html?zx=b1a8034681ff9ab4

Your thoughts and do you squirt?

FD.

The pull out method

Here's an interesting story about women talking about the pull-out method. Have you ever tried it?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/09/06/pullout-method-contraception-my-story_n_3881396.html?ncid=webmail22

Will be interested in your thoughts.

FD

The fake orgasm scene in When Harry Met Sally

Billy Crystal recently gave an explanation of how they filmed the Meg Ryan fake orgasm scene in When Harry Met Sally. I think it is interesting. Here's the link:

http://www.today.com/entertainment/billy-crystal-reveals-secret-behind-ill-have-what-shes-having-8C11111430

Which brings me to the question: Do you ever fake it? I sometimes think in this community there is less faking.

FD

Everything you always wanted to know about the clitoris

I thought you would find this article on the clitoris interesting. I had no idea it wasn't discovered until 1898.

For the women in the audience, were you taught about your clit or did you just discover it on your own with your hand? It also says a woman can normally orgasm in four minutes by masturbating. Not sure if that meant a hand or help from a vibe. And would you rather slow down and have it take longer.

I thought it would be interesting to hear your thoughts.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/28/cliteracy_n_3823983.html

FD

Call me Grandpa

Just wanted to pass along the news that I became a grandfather for the third time a few days ago.

My daughter and the baby, a boy, are doing fine although she need a C section. Now have two boys and a girl.

It's fun to know I'll have another grandchild to spoil. My daughter is in her late 30s and only was married a year ago New Year's Eve of 2011 so we weren't sure if she would have any problems but everything worked out fine.

FD

Sex every day for a year for a year

Here's a story about having sex every day for a year. Here's the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/brittany-gibbons/i-had-sex-every-day-for-a-year_b_3790748.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular

She gives some interesting explanations. Your thoughts.

FD

Go Topless Day

Have you heard of Go Topless Day? I hadn't but here's the link:

http://www.bostonmagazine.com/news/blog/2013/08/06/go-topless-day-boston-august-25-2013/

Your thoughts.

FD

A love story

Here's a good story about an American woman who met a Russian guy and thought she fell in love.

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/08/04/fashion/breaking-free-from-the-nesting-doll.html?pagewanted=1&src=recg

FD

 

Armpits4August

Have you heard of this? Women not removing hair in August for a charity about a condition that causes excessive hair growth. Here's the link:

http://www.policymic.com/articles/57759/armpits4august-is-no-shave-november-for-feminists

Are there any bloggers who don't shave their armpits? It's very rare these days to see a woman who doesn't. Of course, many women now shave their pussies buy armpit shaving seems almost universal.

FD 

What happened when a mother brought her 2-year=old to WalMart wearing a pink headband

This is a depressing tale. I thought as a society we were beyond this:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/katie-vyktoriah/what-happened-when-my-son-wore-a-pink-headband-to-walmart_b_3696113.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular

FD

The Day

I don't know if there is such a day but it is a nice thought.

http://24.media.tumblr.com/006368b542a22cafe0c63f53be179ed3/tumblr_mqt8t99xtf1qkp0j6o1_500.jpg

FD

Love notes

When I left after my last visit to my good girl, I came up with an idea I wished I had thought of before. I left her four love notes saying simply, "I love you.'' Left one under her pillow and three more under things on her dresser. She didn't find them all at once so she loved it when she found each one.

I now just wish I had left more.

FD

Crinoline cages

Here's an interesting article in the NY Times about a museum in Paris showing "Crinoline cages with their hints of perversity and domination'' back in the day. And men got into the act, too.

It also says that soft fabrics draped across the body in the era of ancient Greeks and Romans changed to structured clothing in the 14th century. But it is a mystery of why that happened. Anyway, here's the link:

 http://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/30/fashion/underneath-it-all.html?src=recg

FD

A love story

Here's an interesting story about two transgendered teens who are now a couple. It must so difficult to be born in the wrong body. Here's the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/23/transgender-teenage-couple-arin-andrews-katie-hill_n_3639220.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular

FD

Kink isn't new

I guess with the Internet, it's easy to find kinky people than it used to be. But it's not new. Look at this picture I found on tumblr that may be 100 years old of two women in chastity belts. And they each have a full bush back in the day before women started shaving. Here's the link:

http://female-chastity-belts.tumblr.com/post/52143855701/female-chastity-belts-tumblr-com-female-chastity

FD

College relationships

The New York Times created quite a stir this week with a story on college women at Penn, who are career driven and too busy for relationships. So when they are in the mood for sex, they text a guy and go to his place for a hookup. They go to his place so they don't have to wash their sheets. I thought that was an interesting touch.

Anyway, this story created much hand writing about women acting this way. So in the link I've provided, a woman defends them by saying most college men are much too shallow for relationships anyway so why should the women waste their time with them. The link to the original Times story is in the first graf of the link.

It's obviously a complicated time to be in college, especially ambitious women at an Ivy League school.  Here's the link:

http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2013/07/17/women-want-good-boyfriends-not-just-any-boyfriends/

FD

A woman fired for being beautiful

Here's a story about a dentist assistant who was fired because the dentist said she was too good looking and his wife insisted on it. And the courts upheld up. Hard too believe.

Here's the link:

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/17/opinion/fired-for-being-beautiful.html?src=me&ref=general

FD

How often do you think about sex?

Here's an interesting article on a study about how often men and women think about sex. Study says people with a healthy attitude about sex -- which I think includes most of our bloggers -- think about it more.

Here's the link:

http://www.everydayhealth.com/columns/dr-laura-berman-on-love-and-sex/men-dont-think-about-sex-every-seven-seconds/?xid=aol_eh-mens_8_20130715_&aolcat=HLT&ncid=wsc-dl-cards-headline

FD

Saying goodbye

It was so difficult to say goodbye to my good girl yesterday after spending 10 wonderful days together. After we enjoyed three days at the resort hotel, we spent the rest of the time at her place. There were fun things like walking the beach, waking up and falling asleep in each other's arms, spankings and play time. And just quiet times like enjoying morning coffee together.

She now has quite a collection of seashells as a memory of our beach walks together. She was going to keep one for each walk but now she can't bear to throw the others out so she now has a collection to go with the memories.

And we even put a TV stand together. She joked we managed to do that without breaking up. You know how the instructions are to assemble things.

Anyway, as wonderful it was to be together, it makes being apart in an LDR so much more difficult.

But we have now spent 25 nights together and cherish all those sweet moments. Life doesn't get much better than to love and be loved.

FD


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Vintage beach wear

I checked weather.com this morning and they had 359 beach scenes showing beach wear mainly in the 1920s to 1940s before the bikini when women always wore a one piece that went to their mid thigh and men sometimes wore tops. The pictures are from all over the world.

In photo 103 it even shows a policeman in West Palm Beach measuring how many inches of her thigh that a woman's suit left uncovered. It's unclear if that was a law.

And they also showed something called a Skreenette when women could change in privacy on the beach. It is kind of a circular tube that seems to inflate.

So if you're spending some holiday time at the beach, I thought you might like a reminder of how times have changed.

Here's the link:

http://www.weather.com/travel/rare-vintage-beach-photos-20130501

FD

Happy Fourth

Want to wish all of you in blogland a Happy Fourth. This is a special one for my good girl and I. We are in the 7th day of my 10-day visit. We are back from the resort but since she lives less than a half hour from water, we have continued to walk the beach every day. And, of course, there have been plenty of spankings. But the biggest treat of all is just getting to spend time together, which is precious when you are in an LDR. This is a Fourth I will never forget.

FD 

Vacation time

My good girl are a resort hotel with a wonderful view of the water. We're about to walk the beach. Of course, she already had her morning spanking.

A short post but the beach beckons.

FD

Wedding day from hell

Here's a post about a woman who had her wedding day ruined by some nasty comments from her mother.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/22/mom-ruined-wedding_n_3475466.html?ncid=webmail2

It must be awful to have bad memories of such a special day. I hope the married folk here had much better wedding days.

FD

Boudoir photography

I've heard of women posing for professional boudoir photos for the men in their lives. Have any of you done that?

Here's a story about women doing the photos in groups. Would be interested in your thoughts.

Here's the link:

http://on.aol.com/video/boudoir-photography-leads-to-female-bonding-517827405?hp=1&playlist=127164&icid=maing-grid7%7Chp-laptop%7Cdl3%7Csec1_lnk3%26pLid%3D332313

FD

Erotica

The Daily Beast has done some stuff on 50 Shades and came up with a list of other erotic books. Here's the link:

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/07/12/more-books-like-50-shades-of-grey-naughtiest-bits-from-12-other-erotica-bestsellers.html

What surprised me is they left off The Story of O and 9 1/2 Weeks and Laura Reese's two novels, Panic Snap and Topping From Below.

Have you read any of the books on their list besides the Sleeping Beauty Trilogy and Secret Garden?

FD

Can you believe this?

Here's an incredible story about how a husband accidentally sold his wife's $23,000 wedding ring, not
knowing it was hidden in a box he sold at a garage sale for $10.

http://newsfeed.time.com/2013/06/14/man-sells-wifes-23000-wedding-ring-for-10-oops/\\

FD

Too wet

I was playing tennis tonight and it was a hot muggy night. After we played two sets of doubles, the other three were ready to stop even though I am always ready to play another set. One of the players is a woman from Russia who has a thick accept and at times I can barely understand. So when she said she didn't want to play another set, she only said two words, "Too wet."

Of course, she was referring to sweating on a hot night, but I am sure you know the thought that flashed through my mind. I guess you know what is always on my mind. LOL.

FD
   

Marked

In case you missed it last month, here is a link to Anastassia blog about being permanently marked with a tattoo.

http://slaveanastassiassubmission.blogspot.com/2013/05/a-permanent-mark.html

Are any of you marked or thinking about it?

FD

Seashells and whipped cream

It's taken me a while to write about the wonderful weekend we spent together, but there's that inevitable letdown that comes with having so say goodbye and I don't really know where to start. As you can imagine, we spent a lot of time in bed, playing and just cuddling. And there were the spankings with the crop and my hand. And I got these neat cuffs that can be fastened to the top of a door so her arms are pulled above her head and her body is available for my use. Like for the nipple clamps attached to a chain and too many pins to count. You get the idea. And showering together.

But there was much more. We walked on the beach three different days and we continued her routine of collecting a seashell to mark each beach stroll. But this time she found so many good ones that I don't know if she can narrow it to just one. And she made me a chocolate pie, which is one of my favorites, and ordered chocolate covered Macadamia nuts online because they are another favorite for my birthday.

Our birthdays are a day apart and she gave me a card that technically wasn't a birthday card but was so sweet that I want to share it with you. On the front was a picture of a couple cuddling with their feet and legs poking from underneath the covers. And it read:

"Here's what I'm thinking...
How about you just relax and let me
love every single inch of you.
That's right...every single inch
I'll start by whispering some
sweet somethings in your ear...
then I'll slide down to those
luscious lips of yours and
let our fingers do the talking.
And from there, I'll make my way
slowly, seductively
Well, I think we know
where this is going."

And on the inside it read:
"What I want for you to not just
know you're loved,
but to feel every single
cell of your body.
I want you to feel alive,
treasured, adored.
I want to please you.
And, Baby, if you let me,
I won't stop until you do.

Wow, wasn't that sweet. It made me melt. It was the first birthday we've spent together. The first one we spent was texting when we found out they were on consecutive days. And last year, we were on the phone for the second one. And this was the first in person.

And, I had whipped cream in the title. We stopped at a drivein and I got a chocolate malt and they had whipped cream on top. When we got home, I told her to pull down her top and I put whipped cream on her nipples and sucked it off. I could suck her nipples forever, but the whipped cream was an added touch I've often fantasized about.

And it was nice to go to bed and wake up in each other's arms. On Tuesday morning, she had to go to work and I had to catch a plane and we cuddled for what I thought was 10 minutes. Until we looked at the clock and 25 minutes had sped by. Times flies when you're in love.

Now we miss each other more than ever but three weeks from Friday we will be together for the holiday Fourth of July week for 10 days. We are already counting the days.

FD          

More happy days

Just a quick note to let you know I made it here on time. It was an adventure. If you know the Atlanta airport, I got off the plane at D 1 at 1230 p.m. and my connecting flight was leaving at C 22 at 12:40. So a walk down the hall of the D concourse, get on the train for one stop to C. I was hoping they would be slow in boarding. As I got to the gate, they hadn't started boarding. Never so happy to have a delay because that meant my luggage would make it too.

So I made the connection and was here when she arrived from work. We've had a wonderful time. Gave her a OTK belated birthday spanking Friday with 100 with the riding crop and then 100 hand spanks both Friday and Saturday. And we made it to the beach, too.

Will write more when this wonderful holiday weekend is over but just wanted you to know I made it and all is well and thanks for all the good wishes.

FD  

 

Happy days

I never have to worry about forgetting my good girl's birthday. Hers is the day before mine. Yes, hers was Wednesday, mine was Thursday and today is our 25th month anniversary together. What are the odds of that happening?

 To make it even better, I am flying to visit her for the holiday weekend.

I think a belated birthday spanking will be on the agenda. Would you recommend a good hand spanking?

Anyway, the only downer about this magnical weekend is the frustration of air travel. My flight is late, may miss my connection and not be there when she arrives home from work, which was my plan.So I am waiting at the airport. Still, I will get there eventually and we're going to have a wonderful time.

FD  

Give it to me

I think you will smile if you click on this link.

http://25.media.tumblr.com/2413ee6ef86c53c42f915ce4ba142388/tumblr_mheeqc3Rqc1qjuse9o1_250.jpg

FD

Hand spankings

There is a lot of discussion about spanking implements, but how do you feel about an old-fashioned hand spanking instead?

Do you like hand spankings? How do hey compare with being spanked with variious implements? My girl says hand spankings are very senual.

Your thoughts?

FD

Lisa's Training Chapter 13

My newer readers probably aren't aware that I used to write a series called Lisa's Training about a professional woman who was a tiger in the boardroom and submissive in the bedroom.

Here's a link to the first 11 chapters if you are interested.:

http://floridadomscorner.blogspot.com/2011/10/lisa-stories.html

I haven't written a new one in a long time so I thought it was time to do a new chapter. Hope you enjoy it.

Lisa's Training Chapter 13

Lisa was excited as she watched the clock. She knew she was getting wet already in anticipation of what her Master had planned for her.

She was exhausted from working on a new project and her Master told she needed some time to relax at a nearby resort for the weekend. She knew he was right. She wanted to serve him and make him happy.

He told her to be ready for him at 10 a.m. Saturday morning wearing her most revealing sun dress. It showed a lot of cleavage and barely covered her shaved pussy at the top of her thighs. And she wasn't wearing anything underneath the dress. He likes her without bra and panties so her nipples poked at the dress and her pussy was barely covered.

And the dress was sleeveless so it showed her pits were not shaved. That was his mark on her. In the boardroom where she wore her dress for success suits, it didn't matter. But he liked to take her out in revealing outfits so it was obvious she wasn't shaved. And it was a contrast to her pussy that was always shaved.

He told her to blindfold herself at 9:59 and kneel and wait for him to unlock the door. He was always so prompt that she knew she wouldn't be waiting long.

She felt herself getting wetter as she heard his key click in the door. She heard the door open and he said, "I see my slave is ready to serve her Master.''

"Yes, Master.'' she replied.

She felt him reach inside the top of her sundress and clamp her nipples with a chain attached to them. She winced as he put them on and she knew it would be more painful when he took them off. But she wanted to submit to him and please him.

He then told her to put her arms behind her back and she felt the handcuffs snapped on her wrist and she knew this was going to be an intense weekend.

He then helped her stand up and guided her as she walked blindfolded. He led her to his car and lifted the top of her sun dress so she was sitting with a bare ass on the seat. He told her to keep her legs spread. She was already so excited that she knew she was going to get the car seat wet. As he got into the driver's seat he inserted two fingers in her sopping wet pussy and then licked her sweet juices off of them and said she was so sweet tasting. And he wished he could bottle that taste. He then inserted them a second time and had her lick the juices off her fingers. It was so embarrassing to do this in public but she knew it was making her wetter and hornier. She loved submitting to him.

As they drove, he occasionally insert his fingers tasted her juices. Each time he did she tried to hump his fingers.

When they arrived at the resort, he told her to stay in the car as he registered. He then returned and took guided her into the room. He then took the blindfold off and unlocked the cuffs and removed her dress and took the clamps off her nipples as she gasped. It was always so painful when they came off but she knew he liked them being sore.

She knew she wouldn't be wearing any clothes while they were in the room and would be wearing only a skimpy bikini that barely covered her nipples and her slit at the pool. He liked to showoff her body..

He then led her into the shower and they showered together as he spent a lot of time washing her boobs and pussy. And she loved washing his balls and wanted to get on her knees and start sucking him but she knew he would decided when she got that treated.

He then dried her off and gave her pussy a fresh shave so there was no stubble and then told her to get on her hands and knees. She knew what was next. This was his favorite spanking position. He knew he would want her ass red and stinging to start the weekend. He told her to count every blow so she started, "One, Master, Two Master.'' and got to 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 on her left ass check. Then he went to the right cheek and she counted off 10, 20, 30, 40 and 50.

She was stinging now but he wasn't through. He went back to the left cheek and did 50 more and then 50 more on the right cheek. She loved taking the pain for him and knowing she was making him happy. He then took her in his arms and cuddled her and rubbed her sore ass and she loved his attention.

He then tied her spread-eagled to the bed and started using her body for his pleasure. He licked and sucked and fondled her boobs and then moved to her pussy and started licking and sucking again until she was getting wetter. He knew to put a towel down so she didn't soak the sheets. And she tried to hump his tongue but he had her tied down securely and she was frustrated because he would remove it when she was close to cuming and waited until she cooled down before starting again. The atop and start had her begging and pleading for a cum and she was exhausted and he rubbed her juices on her boobs and shaved pussy area until the smell of her sex was in the air.

He then told her she was going to have to wait for a cum because it was time for lunch. She groaned in frustration as he lapped up the juices running down her thighs and had her put on another revealing dress. He then inserted a butt plug and a dildo in her pussy and told her she would be dining plugged. She knew that would just make her hornier She felt so embarrassed as they were seated by the waiter and he ordered for her. She felt the waiter could smell her sex as she squirmed while plugged.

And she wondered what her Master had planned next.

To be continued

--
I hope you enjoyed the story and hope to tell the story of the rest of their weekend soon. I hope to get some feedback.

FD .            

Women Who Want More Sex Than the Man in their Life

The stereotype is that men usually want more sex than the woman in his life does. Here's a story on women who want it more than the man in their life. Here's the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/02/sex-confessions-women-want-sex-more-than-men_n_3203879.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular

Your thoughts?

FD

Healthcare Secret for Seniors

Here is a fascinating story that the best way to give seniors good healthcare is to have a nurse visit them in their homes once a week even if they are healthy. The problem is there is no money in it and Medicare doesn't want to fund it. Here's the link, long but worth a read: 

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/wonkblog/wp/2013/04/28/if-this-was-a-pill-youd-do-anything-to-get-it/

FD

A Good Enough Life

There is a lot of talk these days about the lives women live in our society.

Here's an interesting take by Elsa Walsh, who happens to be the wife of journalist Bob Woodward of Watergate fame and a successful reporter and wrier in his own right.  She talks about her life and the challenges women face in having a full life and her views on having a good enough life.

Here's the link:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/why-women-should-embrace-a-good-enough-life/2013/04/18/4b2b086c-a5db-11e2-a8e2-5b98cb59187f_story.html?tid=pm_opinions_pop

Your thoughts?

FD

Men, Women from the same Planet

You've heard of the old cliche that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. The idea is that men and women are very different based on their gender.

Now here is a study saying that men and women aren't as different as you think. Here's the link:

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/04/21/opinion/sunday/the-tangle-of-the-sexes.html?hp

I have to admit that they seem like they are more different than this study says. But I thought I'd share it with you.

Your thoughts?

FD

How do you look?

Here's an interesting N.Y. Times story about a Dove soap video. The premise is that a woman describe herself to an artist, who draws a picture of her. Then somebody else describes her to the artist and he draws another picture.

When they put them side by side, the woman looks better in the drawing made by the other person describing her.

The point is that women tend to be too critical of themselves. Women need to be more self confident about their image. If you feel good about yourself, you project a positive image. Here's the link:  

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/04/19/business/media/dove-ad-on-womens-self-image-creates-an-online-sensation.html?src=recg

Your thoughts?

FD

Erotic Fiction

If you check my blogroll, I recently linked to a woman named Lil Me who started up her blog again. She also wrote a work of fiction I thought you might like to read. Here's a link:

http://lilobedientone.blogspot.co.uk/p/little-bits-of-fantasy.html?zx=36412e59b1c84c1f

Also, here's a link to an interesting post she wrote about the kind of Dom she is looking for.

http://lilobedientone.blogspot.com/2013/03/a-man-like-that.html

FD

Does size matter?

Here's an article about women's view of men's size. Here's the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/09/penis-size-study-women-men-big-genitals_n_3041609.html

Your thoughts?

FD

Don't say this

Here's an interesting article on things you should never say to your spouse. Here's the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/shelley-emling/things-you-should-never-say-to-spouse_b_3038647.html?ncid=webmail26

Your thoughts?

FD

Can you tell a woman she's good looking?

Have you been following the flap about the President saying the California attorney general is the best looking one in the country?

So what do you think? Is that appropriate? Do you like to be told you're good looking or do you feel women are judged too much on their looks?

Your thoughts?

FD  

Making Memories

I'm spending another wonderful weekend with my good girl as we continue to make sweet memories.

When I arrived Friday, she said she had a surprise. She had baked a chocolate pie. She knew that's one of my favorites but she was intimidated to try it befoe because she felt it wouldn't be as good as my mother's. Of course, it was delicious. She's a wonderful cook and loves to make my favorite dishes.

On Saturday, we had a day to remember. I don't think we got out of bed until after noon. It was too late for breakfast so she made a wonderful lunch featuring shrimp. Around 2:30, we decided it was a good time for a nap, slept a couple of hours and had some nice play time and finally got dressed to go out for dinner at 8. We came home and watched some episodes of Downton Abbey. It's a period piece set in England before and during WWI. Captures the upper crust English life of those days. We were so slept out that we stayed up until about 1:30 a.m.

Sunday, we went for the beach even though it was too windy for perfect beach weather. But she again collected a seashell. She likes to save a seashell for each time we walk on the beach.

And, I should mention one of the new toys I brought with me -- a vibrating egg. Have any of you ever tried it? What surprised me is that after I slipped it in and turned it on, I didn't hear anything and thought it wasn't working even though I put in new batteries. I kept clicking it off and on and she said, "It's working.'' Being inside her muffled all the noise but she said she liked the sensation. The combination of the egg and the vibe on her clit produced such a delcious reaction. And, of course, I found time for some good spankings. She loves being a submissive.

The only bad thing is that I have to leave on Monday. The time just seems to fly by. But we are left with such warm, sweet memories to cherish.

FD

Is this for real?

Here's a clip about a woman who put up a billboard message calling out her cheating husband. some think it is really a clever ad for the camera. Check it out.

http://www.aol.com/video/north-carolina-billboard-calls-out-cheating-husband/517718501/?icid=maing-grid7%7Cmaing11%7Cdl2%7Csec1_lnk2%26pLid%3D287178

FD

Men, women and sex

You've heard the cliches about how men and women view sex differently, the old Mars-Venus thing. How women want sex for love and men want it for sex or physical gratification. Well, here's a story about a study saying the two sexes are closer than you think. They both want sex for three main reasons -- love, commitment and physical gratification.

I would be interested in your thoughts.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/19/do-men-and-women-have-sex_n_2903220.html?ncid=webmail27

FD

Can you believe this?

What are the odds that two kids who didn't know each other would visit Disney World on the same day and be in the same photograph and then would meet 15 years later and finally marry? What are the odds of that happening?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/20/alex-and-donna-voutsinas_n_2910919.html?ncid=webmail2

FD

Problems with waxing, shaving

Here's an article saying that waxing and shaving could lead to some problems although there hasn't been much research on the topic. Here's the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/19/brazilian-waxing-increase-sti-risk_n_2907546.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women

FD

Having kids

Here's story about a woman with two kids who wants more. He doesn't. Not an easy thing to deal with. Don't know if any of you have ever faced this dilemma.

Reminds me of a woman my sister knows he married a guy who said he didn't want kids. She said the birth control was up to him. And he used a condom every single time.

Life isn't always easy. Here's the link:

http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/03/18/i-want-more-children-he-doesnt/?src=recg

Happy families

Here's an interesting article about what makes a happy family. One answer is that the kids are taught the historg of their family. I will be interested in your thoughts. Do you feel you grew up in a happy family?

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/17/fashion/the-family-stories-that-bind-us-this-life.html?adxnnl=1&ref=general&src=me&adxnnlx=1363775369-63U+KmZvt7avVElT/0CjiA

FD

Masochist

New York magazine had a roundtable discussion of some of the early writers and editors of Ms magazine.

This exchange caught my eye. One woman said, "I threatened to leave over a manuscript by a woman who was a former editor of ours who was writing about why she was a masochist and trying to make it an okay choice. I would rather leave than work for a magazine that published that. And we didn't publish it.''

Another woman said, "Alice Walker wsa very much for publishing it. I remember she quoted Tennessee Williams in her editorial comment on the story: "Nothing human disgusts me.''

I thought it was interesting how times change. Back then Ms wouldn't publish an article about being a masochist -- although I think they did publish a letter from a woman saying she likes to be spanked -- and now Fifth Shades is mainstream.

By the way, did any of you read or like Ms back in the day?

FD

 
  

Transgender kids

Here's a fascinating story about a six-year-old in a male body knowing that she is really a girl. And she is one of triplets. Interesting how these things happen in nature.

The thrust of the story is that the school won't let her use the girl's bathroom. But what I find interesting is that at six, she knows she is in the wrong body. In the last line of the story, she says they're being mean to her because they say she's a boy and she is a girl. She knows that at such a young age. Here's the link:

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/18/us/in-colorado-a-legal-dispute-over-transgender-rights.html?hp&_r=0

FD

Locked in her closet

Yes, my good girl was locked in her closet this morning. But there was nothing kinky about that.

In our LDR, we have various rituals and one of them is that she calls me every morning. It has become such a ritual that she will call me at 6:15 a.m. her time Saturday morning before I go play tennis. And then I put her back to bed after we chat and before I leave so she can sleep in. I have suggested she sleep in and skip the call but she wants to call.

Well, she had guests overnight but she still wanted to call and didn't want to explain why she would be placing a call that early in the morning. So she locked herself in her closet and called me and whispered as we had a short chat. I have to admit I had to smile at that image. And last night when she called to be put to bed, she was in bed and again whispering.

I guess our rituals have taken on more significance than we expected when we started them almost 23 months ago back when we were only texting and before we started talking on the phone.

FD

Being appreciated

Here's an interesting story about how many 40ish women want a divorce not because their husbands are abusive or cheating or alcoholics. The problem is that they don't make their wives feel appreciated. A lot of food for thought. Here's the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/monique-honaman/if-not-shown-appreciation_b_2805222.html?ncid=webmail3

FD

Going Maintstream

How mainstream is "Fifty Shades of Grey'' getting?

Well, here's a snippet from the speech by Minnesota senator Amy Klobuchar at the Gridiron dinner Saturday night, which is a sort of a roast.

She said, "The President is here. You are looking good, Mr. President. We all know that the President has aged a little bit in the White House. His secret service code name used to be Renegade. Now it's 'Fifty Shades of Grey.' ''

I think that is a sign of how much the books have entered the popular culture.

FD

Spanking and Exercise

I was working out the other day after playing tennis and watched a trainer doing a session with a young woman. As he directed her and told her to do one more of one exercise, I was thinking she looks very submissive.

And then he had her on his hands and knees doing pushups. With her butt in the air, I was thinking that it it would be fun to have my good girl do pushups for me as I alternated them with blows from my riding crop.

How convenient that my next trip there will be two weekends from now. I can't stop thinking about the combination of spanking and exercise.  Hmmm, sounds like fun.

FD

Marriage on the Internet

Here's an interesting story about couples having their marriage ceremony over the Internet. Here's the link:

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/06/nyregion/internet-marriages-on-rise-in-some-immigrant-communities.html?src=recg

FD

Becoming a grandfather -- again

Good news. I just learned I will become a grandfather for the third time. For those of you who are grandparents, you understand that grandkids are the reward for raising your kids. You get to enjoy them without the hassle of raising them. Although you have to bite your tongue at time when you don't like their parenting style.

Anyway, my older daughter has two aged almost 10 and 11 and my younger daughter is due for her first in August. She's 38 and just got married a year ago New Year's Eve so at her age, we didn't know if she would be blessed with one.

Anyway, as the first two are starting to grow out of the Santa Claus stage, we get to enjoy that cycle again.

Now we just hope and pray that everything goes well and the baby is healthy.

FD

End of a relationshiip

Here's an interesting article from the NY Times about a young woman and the ups and downs of a relationship that started with sex and finally ended.  Don't know if any of you have experienced something like this. It was the most viewed article in the paper today. Here's the link:

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/03/fashion/limping-toward-the-truth-modern-love.html?src=rechp&_r=0

FD

Eating disorder

I don't know if any of you have had to cope with an eating disorder, but here's an interesting article from a Yale student about her battle with an eating disorder. Here's the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/isabella-huffington/i-like-my-period-anorexia_b_2790540.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular

FD

Making memories

I haven't blogged yet about my wonderful weekend with my good girl. It was a delightful mixture of play time and vanilla things like walking the beach and watching a couple of Oscar nominated films and the Oscar ceremony itself.

Our playtime included my first hand spanking.  I thought it would be softer than the riding crop or the blogger but she said she felt the sting more later. I will be curious what the rest of you think of hand spankings. And I found that it was easier for her to take the flogger when I did it vertically instead of horizontally so it didn't wrap around her hips.

She also presented me with delightful Valentine's gifts, including a small mail box that she decorated with xoxo on the top, a heart, x and o on the sides and three hearts on the front. Inside were stickers reading xoxo, love you, you're the sweetest and be my valentine. And a small heart shaped box of chocolate and two pairs of boxers. One with I and the lipstick on lips with a you. And the other one with small hearts with sayings like turn me on, awesome, love you, big flirt, hug me, nice pkg, I want u, lover boy, be mine, call me, etc. Really how sweet was that?

And then there were all the simple things like going to sleep in her arms and waking up in them.

Then came the downside, having to say goodbye, holding her in my arms with her head on my chest and then her waving goodbye from her doorway. Whoever said parting is such sweet sorrow was wrong about the sweet part. It is much more bitter than sweet.

I will be counting the days until my next visit.

FD 

Finding a baby

Here's an amazing story about how a gay guy found a baby at a subway stop 12 years ago and how the judge gave him and his partner custody and now 12 years later with gay marriage legal, the same judge officiated at their marriage with the son, now 12, at the ceremony. Here is the link from the New York Times:

http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/02/28/we-found-our-son-in-the-subway/?hp

FD 

Online dating

I found this interesting blogon Huffington Post about an attractive 50-year widow in New York City who spent a year going on about 100 online dates and blogging about them.

You wouldn't believe how clueless some of the guys are even though they are living in what is supposedly a sophisticated city. She even started holding workshops for guys who to teach them how to date.

I am sure many of the bloggers have had some bad experiences on their dates and can relate to this blog. Here's the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/melani-robinson/online-dating-what-i-learned-from-a-year_b_2744982.html

FD

Kinky lifestyle profiled in New York Times

Another sign that the kinky lifestyle is going more mainstream is this article in the N.Y Times. I think you will find it interesting. Here's the link:

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/02/28/fashion/bondage-domination-and-kink-sex-communities-step-into-view.html?smid=tw-nytimes&_r=0

FD

I'm Here

Maybe it's a good omen that I had a good trip to visit my good girl without any delays and I'm at her place Friday afternoon waiting for her to get home from work.

And I found several Valentine's Day presents on the dining room table. How sweet is that.

Let the fun begin.

FD 

Keeping my right arm in good shape

I rested today after playing tennis nine times in six days. I won't be playing again before next Tuesday, but all that tennis has my arm ready for a different kind of exercise. I will be visiting my good girl Friday for a weekend stay and that means I'll be putting my arm to good use as I wield the riding crop and the flogger.

I know some bloggers say they don't think they get enough spankings. I don't think you'll hear her say that. The word she prefers to describe me in insatiable. Of course, we will also be doing a lot of other fun things, too. It should be another weekend to remember. We cherish every moment together and on Sunday we will celebrate the 22nd month anniversary of the first night we played online. In some way, it seems like yesterday. In other ways, it seems like we've always been together.

FD

A sexy gift

Here's a funny article about a guy who bought a baby doll negligee for his wife and she laughed at him. I thought it would be interesting to hear how many of you would like getting sexy lingerie for a gift or would you consider it impractical. Here's the link:

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/02/17/fashion/seduced-by-a-gift-that-broke-the-rules-modern-love.html?src=recg

He also has some funny comments on how 30 something men are always ready for sex whether she is in a negligee or a hospital gown. He says what she's wearing, "makes zero difference to the segment of the population nown for wearing black socks during intercourse.''

Does your guy wear black socks in bed?

FD

Explaining joys of spankings

The lovely PK had an interesting discussion of spankings I thought I'd share although many of you probably read it already.

She wrote, "Even spankos aren't always crazy about the spanking while it's happening. The anticipation and the aftermath are the best parts. It's like dieting -- It's not enjoyable when you're doing it, but the results are great.''

Here's the link:

http://elisnewbeginnings.blogspot.com/2013/02/we-both-have-our-jobs-to-do.html

Is that the way most spankos feel that the anticipation and aftermath are the best parts or do you like the actual spanking better?

I will be interested in your comments.

FD

Do you like this joke?

Did you hear what the Eveready battery said to the Frito Lay potato chip?

"If you're free to lay, I'm ever ready."

FD

A Sad Story

Here's a story about a 91-year-old widow who has to sell her possessions to raise $3000 to bury her husband of 46 years.

I wish social security covered burials in cases like this.  Here's the link:

http://www.dailyfinance.com/2013/02/16/elsie-smith-estate-sale-bury-husband/?ncid=webmail1

FD

A Valentine's Day combo: Flowers and a Spanking

Did any of you get flowers and/or a spanking on Valentine's Day?

I thought they would make a perfect combination for my good girl on Valentine's Day.

And then using her trusty hitachi, she had two cums and was feeling shaky in subspace and then I had put on your cuddling shawl before I sent her to bed feeling very satiated as we exchanged "love yous.''

Now that was a Valentine's Day to remember. I hope yours was, too.

FD   

Matchmaker

Here's an interesting story about a matchmaker in New York, who says her services are better than online dating. Here's the link:

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/02/11/nyregion/fay-goldman-is-a-matchmaker-but-dont-call-her-a-yente.html?src=recg

FD

Sex Secrets

I don't know how many of you read "Woman's Day'' but I saw this interesting article online about eight secrets of sexually satisfied couples.

They are for vanilla couples and some are obvious like scheduling sex, locking the bedroom door, communicating and experimenting.

But on this Valentine's Day, I thought you might find it interesting. Here's the link:

http://www.womansday.com/sex-relationships/sex-tips/8-secrets-of-sexually-satisfied-couples-117094?link=satisfiedcouples&dom=glo&src=syn&con=slide&mag=wdy

I would be interested in your thoughts.

FD

Renting a boyfriend

Here's an interesting article about how women in China feel so much pressure to have a man in their lives that they rent a boyfriend. Here's the link:

http://now.msn.com/rental-boyfriends-popular-for-chinese-lunar-new-year

Life is complicated all over the world.

FD

New Blogger Alert

I like to welcome new bloggers to our community so I want to introduce you to a new spanko although some of you have already discovered her.

She is Hannah and is off to a good start with her story about why she needs to be spanked. Here's the link and hope you stop by and start following her:

http://hannahgetsspanked.blogspot.com/?zx=24a4503e4307f9d4

FD

Grandmother Stands Up for Gay Grandson

Here's a feel good story about a grandmother who stood up for her gay grandson in a church.

The boy is lucky to have her as his grandmother. Here's the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/06/grandmother-gay-grandson_n_2625648.html?utm_hp_ref=gay-voices&icid=maing-grid7%7Cmain5%7Cdl16%7Csec1_lnk3%26pLid%3D266945

FD 

Unhealthy Americans

Americans like to think we have a good health care system. But compared to other big countries in the world, we not only don't have a good one, but we're not as healthy as citizens in other countries.

Here's a revealing article on the subject:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/marty-kaplan/being-american-is-bad-for_b_2613222.html

FD

Spanking Survey

I thought it would be interesting to have all the spankos give their thoughts on what they like when they are spanked:

What is your favorite implement? Least favorite? Do you get maintenance spankings, spankings as foreplay or punishment spankings?

Do you like spankings that just sting and leave your butt pink or do you like them so hard that it is bright red and you can't sit down? Or something in between?

How often are you spanked? Do you wish you got more spankings?

Do you ever ask for one? And how many days can you go without before you feel the need for one?

I hope you will share your thoughts.

FD

Showering can be dangerous

Here's an interesting article that showering can be dangerous for older folks because they are prone to falling.

The larger point is that everyday things can be more dangerous than things people think are dangerous but aren't. Here's the link:

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/29/science/jared-diamonds-guide-to-reducing-lifes-risks.html?src=me&ref=general

FD

Coming Out

Did you see this story about a teen girl who baked a cake to tell her parents she is gay. The nice part is that they were supportive.

http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/lookout/girl-comes-parents-help-cake-225145896.html

FD

Coming Out

Did you see this story about a teen girl who baked a cake to tell her parents she is gay. The nice part is that they were supportive.

http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/lookout/girl-comes-parents-help-cake-225145896.html

FD

A Weekend to Remember

I already blogged about the start of my weekend with my good girl on my Christmas in January post. And she posted about it after I left. Here's the link:

http://pouredoutlett.blogspot.com/

She captured so well what a good time we had in our first weekend together at her place. And only our second meeting. Yes, the spankings -- although I think she has second thoughts about getting me that flogger as a stocking stuffer!!! -- and her being submissive to me and giving me what I want were so much fun. I love her being submissive to me.

But the vanilla stuff was so nice, too. We are both cuddlers and can never can seem to have enough cuddling time. It was so nice to watch TV together as we cuddled on the couch. We often watch TV together on the phone but it doesn't match watching it on her couch together.

And just having meals together was a treat. She is a very good cook and it was so nice the way, as she said, she doted on me.  And picking out meals she knew I would like.

Showering together is such a treat, too.

And checking out the beaches was so nice. As she said, I love the beach.

The only negative was having to leave after giving her that one last hug and kiss.

I hope to be back soon and as she said, she is checking out if there are any job prospects in this area.

In one her first posts on March 30, 2011 she wrote about her feelings of wanting to explore the lifestyle, "So what is this feeling? It's akin to standing at the foot of a mountain, knowing that's my learning curve. Knowing it's going to have to be climbed.''

A few days later, I wish her good luck on her journey and said that if she wished to discuss it in greater detail, she could email me.

She did and we have climbed that mountain together. I love the view from here.

FD

Chirstmas in January

I'm having a wonderful time visiting my good girl. She said she'd give me her Christmas presents when I arrived and when I walked in the door, she  still had the Christmas tree and stockings still up. How sweet was that!!!

Among other things, she gave me T-shirts reading, "I'll slap that ass 'till it's 50 Shades of Red'' and "I would cuddle you so hard.''

But the best one was the stocking stuffer -- a flogger. A good complement to my riding crop. She had already gotten two spankings before I opened the presents (don't want her to feel she is not getting enough spankings) and so I gave her No.. 3 with the flogger.

I have to admit the flogger is quite effective. She said her butt was burning and added. "What was I thinking (for getting it)?''

So I want to ask my readers how do they feel about the flogger compared to the riding crop or any other spanking implement?

 Well, I thought I'd give you an update but have to run.Still busy with cuddling,snuggling, bondage and spanking. Along with nice vanilla stuff like stopping by the beach and walking on a nature trail. And  she's even cooking for me instead of going out. She is truly my good girl.

What a weekend to remember!!!

FD  

"I'm tied up at the moment, can I return your call?''

That's what my good girl could be saying if she gets any telephone calls this weekend.

We will be meetng for the second time. The first time, about two months ago, we were both kind of anxious and nervous about meeting for the first time.

This time our anticipation is different. Here's a link to her blog as she thinks about my arrival:

http://pouredoutlett.blogspot.com/

FD

Oprah's Kink Show

I wrote a few days ago that the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN) was going to have a show Tuesday on kink.

If you didnn't see it, Lisa Ling narrated it and it was surprisingly positive even though she is vanilla. She started out with a guy paying a Mistress to be domed, which didn't do anything for me. But then they told the story of two couples in the lifestyle. In one of them, they are both dom types so they had to adjust. I was surprised they were willing to go on camera.

And they had a psychologist talking about how BDSM couples are good at communicating. I've always felt couples in the D/s or BDSM have more intense relationships because they spend more time together in play time while vanilla couples often just have quickie sex.

Anyway, here's the link to the Oprah website with Lisa Ling talking about doing the show and also there are links to segments on the show:

http://www.oprah.com/own-ouramericalisaling/blogs/Why-Kink-from-Lisa-Ling

The show also will be show again if you get the Oprah network and want to watch it. And sorry

FD

   

Looking for a millionaire?

I was looking for the Oprah Winfrey website to write about her kink show and I got a popup for a site called "Millionaire for me.''

It has a form to fill out and says "Find your millionaire now.'' It says "We verify income. Verified single VIP millionaires in your area.'' And it says it has almost 8000 members in my area. Huh? How many millionaires can there be? It says it has "verfied single millionaires and model quality women?'' What no women millionaires?

I somehow think millionaires wouldn't have any trouble getting dates, but I thought I'd share this with you before I get back to the kink show.

FD 

Finding Shades

Costco is one of my favorite stores.  Don't know if they have a store near you but they have quality stuff at reasonable prices and they pay their workers well.  My only problem is that they have two many items I can't resist buying.

Well, I was there today and on the book table they had a boxed set of the Shades trilogy and another book called "Release Me'' that I'd never heard of but seemed to have an erotic theme. It seems that erotic fiction is becoming more mainstream now that it is at Costco. So I bought both of them.

Times seem to be changing now that Costco is into erotic fiction.

FD 

Feel Good Story

Here's a story about a man who paid for a meal for a couple at a restaurant and what happened when he returned to the restaurant three years later. Not to spoil the story but the couple was there again and there was a proposal. Hope you enjoy it. Here's the link:

http://www.cafemom.com/articles/food_party/149505/man_anonymously_buys_couple_dinner?utm_medium=sem2&utm_campaign=prism&utm_source=outbrain&utm_content=0

FD

Oprah Goes Kinky

While watching the Lance Armstrong interview on Oprah's OWN network last night, they had a promo for a show on kink being shown next Tuesday at 10 p.m. EST, 9 CST. It references 50 Shades and says it is look at the BDSM world.

 I know some of you spankos aren't into BDSM but I thought you might find it interesting although  shows like this often don't get into the bond that the D/s likestyle can help create between a Dom and a sub. I think the lifestyle makes for more intense relationships than vanilla couples have. That to me is the essence of the lifestyle. But the show is an example that the success of 50 Shades seem to be bringing the lifestyle to a more mainstream audience.

Here's a link to a five-minute preview of the show:

http://www.oprah.com/own-our-america-lisa-ling/Sneak-Peek-Watch-the-First-5-Minutes-of-the-New-Season-Video

FD

 

Breasts as a weapon

Here's a story about a woman accused of killing her boyfriend by smothering him with her breasts. Sounds unbelieveable but I thought I'd share it.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/16/donna-lange-breasts-smother-kill-boyfriend-everett-washington_n_2486189.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular#slide=more250178

FD

The End of Courtship

Here's an interesting article from the N.Y. Times on how the idea of a guy picking up the phone and asking a woman out on a date and taking her to a restaurant and a movie is so old-fashioned in our texting, hookup culture. Here's the link:

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/13/fashion/the-end-of-courtship.html?src=me&ref=general

Will be interested in your thoughts.

FD

A Difficult Decision

Did you read about the 24-year-old beauty pageant contestant who is having her breasts removed because of a history of breast cancer in her family even though she has no apparent problems at the moment. This story doesn't include the point that the woman's father encouraged her to do it after losing his wife and her mother to the disease.

Is this is a good idea? Would you do it in her circumstances? Here's a link to a story about whether that decision is a good idea:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/barron-h-lerner/allyn-rose-mastectomy_b_2463629.html?utm_hp_ref=health-news&ir=Health%20News

Will be curious to hear your thoughts.

FD

Jodie Foster's Speech

Did you see Jodie Foster's speech at the Golden Globes Sunday night? Here's a link:

http://news.moviefone.com/2013/01/13/jodie-foster-golden-globes-speech_n_2469446.html?ncid=webmail1

It's hardly news that she's gay but she's always been a very private person and some members of the gay community had hoped she would support the community more in the past by being more public. But it was a very heartfelt speech. And hard to believe she's been acting for 47 years and a star since Taxi Driver when she was 13. And she looks more 35 than 50.

FD

Meeting a Vanilla Blogger

One of the best things about blogging is getting to know new people and in some cases actually meeting them.

Recently, for the third time, I met a blogger I got to know while reading their blogs and then starting to email. It's always interesting to meet someone you've only talked to in emails. And this time was different because she is a vanilla type who blogged about her breakup. She hasn't updated the blog in quite a while but here's the link:  

http://diaryofabreak.blogspot.com/

Anyway, as with PK and with Kitty, who has since stopped blogging, it was a fun meeting and it was as if we had already known each other as we talked about our lives. It is so interesting to put a voice to the person you've emailed with. For those of you who've also met in person people you've got to know online, I think you can understand. They've all been fun experiences.

Anyway, if any of you wind up meeting a fellow blogger, I hope it goes as well as it has for me.

And, of course, I also met my good girl recently but we knew each other quite well before we met in person.

FD

  

Happy New Year

Want to wish you and yours a Happy New Year filled with much joy and fulfillment.

And to all of those couples in this lifestyle in our little community, I hope you feel very connected to each other as you experience the fulfullment that comes with a D/s relationship. We all do things a little different but the key thing is that it works for us and we feel the wonder of loving and being loved.

My good girl and I are in a LDR but we were connected by phone as the ball dropped and we rang in the new year together and thought about all the wonderful times we plan to spend together in the coming year.

I love hearing her say, "Did I give you want you wanted?'' And she does. And I try to make her feel loved and cherished. Life doesn't get much better than that.

Again, Happy New Year.

FD