Wednesday, February 13, 2019

New book on female sexuality

I was browsing the new books section at the library the other day and came across a book entitled: "Untrue: Why nearly everything we believe about women, lust and infidelity is wrong and how the new science can set us free."
It was written by a woman -- Wednesday Martin -- with a PhD from Yale so it is a serious book.
It talks about sexuality thousands of years ago and says the invention of the plough was bad for women's sex lives. Sounds crazy but the thesis is that men being stronger were better at using a
plough and women became more dependent.
Another theme is that women are wired for variety in sex.
One interesting quote: "Men are more likely to report that they are sexually satisfied if they get sex reguarly from their long term partners, women are another story."
It says married women who seek new men in their lives "aren't looking for an exit strategy or a new husband." What they were looking for was "great sex."
And the author questions the thesis that men have stronger sex drives than women do.
A review by the Atlantic says the book is "part anifesto, part cultural anthropology, part literary criticism, part memoir."
It says the book "veers in a number of directions in pursuit of proving Martin's thesis, but never abruptly or in an order that feels jarring."
My take on all this is that what many women needs are husbands who are more attentive to their needs in the bedroom.
Anyway, I thought I'd bring it to you attention. It came out last September but I didn't hear about it at the time.

Wednesday, January 23, 2019

Old spanker learning new tricks

Back when I posted more often, I mentioned that real life spanking is more difficult than fantasy. Like getting her butt a nice shade of red and want er to enjoy it but don't want to really hurt her. 
And I finally did something recently
that was so obvious I can't figure out why I didn't think of it b.efore. After spanking for a while, I said have you had enough and she said NO,
Communication is always good.
It was long ago that she told me she liked her pussy being spanked as part of foreplay although it is too sensitive for more than light taps.
So do any of you liked to be asked if you want more or does that spoil the mood for you?


Sunday, January 20, 2019


One of the highlights of our holiday together is that I presented her with a collar. It is made of leather with a silver circle in the middle. Found it at a department store so it looks vanilla enough that she can wearit outside the house but the great thing is that she loved it and only takes it off when she showers. I love seeing her wearing it. One of my things I like is marking her but my ideas haven't worked too well.. Writing on her body with a magic marker didn't work because it came on her clothes. A string around her chest was irritating. And not having her shaves her pits only works in the winter. But I think this collar is going to work out well.
Anyway, hope you are all doing well and I will try to post more often.


Saturday, January 5, 2019

Belated Happy Holidays

Sorry I didn't wish you all happy holidays sooner. One of my New Year's resolutions has to be to blog more often and stay in touch with my old friends. Hard to believe I've been on here since 2006.
I spent Christmas with the kids and grandkids. Two of the grandkids are two and five and so much fun to be with the little ones who still believe in Santa and put out cookies for Santa and a carrot for Rudolph. Fortunately, we had rain but not snow. Living in a southern climate the last 17 or so years, I've gotten spoiled not having to deal with snow.
After a week I flew back home for a day and then left to spend New Year's Eve with my good girl. And her two dogs. The fouro of us welcomed in the new year on the couch. The two dogs have different personalities. One wants to be at one end by himself. The other one wants to be sharing our space. Being in the eastern time zone, we welcome it in twice. They show the ball dropping at Times Square live at 11 pm local time and then we did it again an hour later. Didn't like the bigger ball that doesn't seem to drop.
Hope you all had a wonderful holday season and let's hope we all have a great new year and stay in touch with our friends in the blogging world.


Friday, December 7, 2018

Sex for 365 days in a row

Saw an article about a woma had her third kid and wan't feel very sexy and her solution was to have sex every day for a year. Of course, her husband was on board with the idea and she said they did it and had many positive benefits and it helped her feel better about herself.
Can anybody imagine really doing this?
Your thoughts?

Florida Dom 

Wednesday, November 21, 2018

Happy Thanksgiving

Sorry I haven't posted in ages, but wanted to wish you and yours a Happy Thanksgiving.
I will be spending the day with my good girl and we will be giving thanks that we found each other. Counting her two dogs, there will be four of us and they will want much attention as they always do.
If the weather is OK, Simone -- a pit mix -- will be eager for a walk and looking for squirrels.
Jett is an older dog we found at a rescue like Simone, a lab mix we fear was abused because he runs the other way if he sees the the leash so he is not ready for walking. We hope we will earn his trust and will be going on walks by next Thanksgiving.
Again, hope the holiday finds all of you well. I don't post often enough but think of the friends I've made here often.

Florida Dom   

Thursday, July 26, 2018

It's a dog's life

I never had much interaction or much interest in dogs. Our daughters had a cat growing up but cats are independent. The whole walking the dog thing didn't appeal much to me.
And then my good girl found a mixed pit at a shelter about a year ago and I found out why they call dogs man's best friend.
She loves to lay on her back and get belly rubs and lick your face and often wants to play. She has a ball slightly smaller than a basketball with ridges she can sink your teeth into and she wants you to try to pull it away from her which is almost impossible.
And she is smart and knows what she is supposed to do. She never climbs on our bed, for example, and she didnt take long to get housebroken. Once we started letting her sleep in a doggy bed at the foot of our bed, she used to wake up and come to my good girl's side and one of us would get up and take her out. But a couple of times, she just said go back to bed and Simone did. Now she stays in her bed until we get up.
But she will try to get away with things she knows she is not supposed to do if she thinks she can. She often has a rash on her lower belly and the vet hasn't been able to figure out the cause. Meanwhile, she likes to lick it, which we don't think is a good idea, but if we're not looking, she will. And we just say "hey" and she immediately stops. Or if she starts barking at a dog on the other side of the fence. When we open the door and say get in here, she immediately runs to the door but she seems to figure she will do it until we we tell her to stop.
And all bets are off when she sees a squirrel. She will pull on her leash trying to chase it. Of course, the squirrel just climbs a tree and all she can do it get up on her hind legs and look up at the tree. She can't figure out she will never catch one.
There are times my good girl and I disagree on dog parenting. Some days she doesn't each much and my good girl gets concerned. Maybe she is tired of the dog food or whatever. But I say no dog is going to starve when food is available even if she would prefer treats.   
Anyway, I was dubious about the idea of getting a dog, but have to admit she is fun to have around.