Friday, May 27, 2016

Stormy weather

My good girl is arriving tonight for a 10-day visit that will include belated birthday celebrations for both of us. Our birthdays are on consecutive days May 22-23 but 24 years apart although to us, age is just a number. And we're going out of town to a B and B for a couple of days next week.
But wouldn't you know it, with the stormy weather, his flight is already 90 minutes late, now due at 1230 a.m. and who knows if it will be later than that. We usually have some good play time when she arrives but she said she is likely to be a zombie by the time we get home at 130 a.m. or later. I had an elaborate scenario planned for tonight and even bought more rope at the hardware store for more bondage. May have to cut things short although I will probably give her a good spanking just to keep her awake. She may not be too wet even when I am rubbing her clit and slit to warm her up.
Anyway, I figure we will sleep late Saturday morning and our morning coffee on the lanai may be late morning. But as we relax, she will have the ben-wa balls inserted the way she does when she calls every night so she will feel like she's mine. I love her feeling like she is mine and is making me happy. Meanwhile, I will try to take a nap but she won't have that luxury at the airport.


Museum of Sex

Did you know there is a Museum of Sex in New York. I've actually been there. They've had some bondage gear. And grainy films of naked women that are over a century old. It seems that as soon as film was invented, filming naked women was popular.
Here's an article on the former curator of the museum. Maybe you will find it interesting.


Thursday, May 26, 2016


I became a grandpa for the fourth time Wednesday, just two days after my own birthday and three days after my good girl's birthday. My daughter had a very cute baby girl. This has been a week of birthdays for us.
For all of you who are grandparents know what a special treat it is to have another grandchild. I have two daughters and each has a boy and a girl. And it will be fun in a few years to go through the Santa Claus experience again.



Somebody posted a picture of a couple hugging and kissing and the caption was that a wide physical once said that the best medicine for humans is love. And when somebody asked what if it doesn't work, he said increase the dose.
Life is so much better when you love and are loved.

Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Body shaming

It's not news that Donald Trump tends to put down women, but here's a sad story about how he body shamed a former Miss Universe, calling her "Miss Piggy'' after she put on weight. And she talks about the psychological damage it did to her.
It's another example of some of the things that women face regarding their bodies.
Although, this made news because Trump was involved, many women face issues like this.

Monday, May 23, 2016

More evidence that America is going crazy

Here's a story about a two lesbian tourists who say they were harassed after kissing in a grocery store in Honolulu. They won an $80,000 settlement.
And I thought Honolulu catered to tourists.

Saturday, May 21, 2016


The D/s lifestyle that we celebrate in the blogs tends to be off the radar screen. I wish there was more research on the subject. I tend to think that D/s couples have a closeness that vanilla couples don't. I tend to think there is more communication and playtime tends to keep them closer.
What brought up this subject was a NY Times article written by a woman who says her marriage ended because of the silence in the relationship. they not only didn't fight. They didn't communicate.
Here's the article:
Will be curious to hear your reaction.

Wednesday, May 18, 2016

America is going crazy

You've probably heard about the transgender bathroom controversey, which shouldn't be a controversy and isn't a problem.
But to show how crazy things are getting a 22-year woman posted a blog about being told by another woman to get out of the bathroom at a Wal-Mart. The 22 year old was first puzzled but then realized that because she had cut her hair short to give hair to cancer victims and was wearing a baseball cap, the other woman apparently thought she was trans.  
What does it say about America that there is such a strain of intolerance on some issues?


Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Woman having multiple orgasms for first time at age 57

Here's a story showing age is just a number at age 57. A woman talks about having multiple orgasms for the first time at age 57 and having it with a man in a wheelchair. He's obviously a good lover.
Your thoughts?

Monday, May 16, 2016

Keeping your sex life from becoming boring

Here's an article talking about keeping your sex life from becoming boring. Things like building anticipation and doing different things.
What are you thoughts?
Being in a long distance relationship, I think there is value in rituals because it is easy to let things slide when your contact is on the phone.
We have recently made our play time part of our evening ritual because there were times in the past when she sounded tired or distracted that I didn't pursue any phone play time. After she even called back a couple of times and I figured she wanted more, I decided that we needed more of a nightly ritual with some play time.
So I have her insert ben wa balls in his pussy before she calls to build anticipation. Then I have her remove them and ask her a series of questions like how does she want to make me happy, serve me, be taken, give herself to me, take her body for my pleasure.
Then one scenario is to tell her to spread her legs and rub her slit and clit and finally her g spot. Meanwhile, I talk about the things I like to do to her from taking off her top and unfastening her bra and cupping her boobs and presenting them to me as I suck her nipples and lick her boobs and rub them. And then remove her pants, pull down her panties and having her spread her legs and then rubbing my fingers along her slit to see how wet she is.
And then talking about paddling her with your new wooden paddle and marking her boobs with the riding crop to fingering her butt.
And then I move to the next stage and have her lube the dildo and fuck herself with it. And finally putting the vibe on her clit. I see how she reacts. If she is moaning, I know she wants more and is likely to come. If not, I figure she is not cuming that night and I stop and talking about cuddling her, holding her tight and putting my leg between her legs and rubbing my knee against her cunt, which she loves. And then I put her to bed.
I don't do all these things every night. Sometimes, I skip some elements of the ritual because I don't want to wear her out. But whether she cums or not, I love doing some kind of ritual nightly. I feel it makes us feel closer and even more connected, which is especially important in an LDR. She said recently she needs to be when I need her to be. Her saying that makes me feel warm and fuzzy. I love her serving me.


Saturday, May 7, 2016

Fifth anniversary

We were fortunate that my good girl was able to visit and be here on the fifth anniversary on the first night we played back in the days when we first started playing online. It was a night we remember vividly. She was a newbie to the lifestyle and I offered to give her a taste of it if she decided she wanted to try it. I think in retrospect she was waiting for me to take charge. So that night, she said she was getting horny as we talked about the lifestyle so I decided it was time for me to bring out her submissive side and it turned out she was ready to submit. She had her first online cum and we've never looked back. She quickly learned she would no longer have cums without me directly them and she hasn't.
And one thing led to another although we didn't meet for almost 18 months. Amazing how quickly five years can go by.
And I couldn't have been happier with the gift she gave me. The fifth anniversary symbol is wood and she gave me a wooden paddle with five holes in it.
Well, as you might assume, the paddle packed quite a wallop. It reddened her cheeks very quickly and she was gasping but as I've said before, it is somewhat difficult for me to know how hard to paddle her. Not too hot, not too cold but just right. We talked about it afterwards and she said she could take it harder but shorter. We will continue to try to figure out how to use it just right.
Whether or not it was a coincidence, we had quite a playtime after that. She wanted to be fucked harder and squirted all over the place. I don't know if squirting means it is a better cum or why she squirts sometimes and sometimes she doesn't.
Anyway, we had a good time while she was here. Visited the beach one day and she wanted a bit of sun but she is very fair skin and she reddened quickly. When she pulled down the front of her swimsuit, it was like she had a red bib. Fortunately she got under the umbrella before she actually burned.
And every morning we had coffee on the lanai looking at the ducks on the pond. It was very relaxing. One morning a hawk swooped in and she wanted to get a picture of it. Unfortunately, then the hawk went after some of the smaller birds babies and I won't go into the details. It was upsetting for her and we had to shoo him away when he returned.
And, of course, we went to sleep every night in each other's arms and woke up in each other's arms. We aren't together as often as we'd like to so we really cherish the times we have together.
We were so lucky to find each other. We have lit up each other's lives.